Let’s Talk To Naomi – Part 2

Naomi: Dave

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Yes, Sister Naomi

Naomi: Afa!

DBM: For real?

Naomi: For real

DBM: What did you tell him?

Naomi: Me? Not much. He took over the conversation

DBM: How?

Naomi: I sent him a message that we needed to talk at 6:30pm. I got to his post and he had bought me food. He offered to drive me home because the guy to replace his shift had come. He did a lot of the talking in the car.

DBM: Was this his first time driving you home?

Naomi: No. He does that sometimes when he realizes I am tired.

DBM: Do you ask him to drive you?

Naomi: I don’t. He volunteers. And that’s not all, he’s been coming to weed the backyard of my home for the past four or five years. I don’t ask him to do anything outside the office. But on many occasions, I will get home, and he’s there doing something to fix something in my house.

DBM: Let’s go back to your talk with him yesterday. How did it start?

Naomi: I told him I think I like him more than a friend would, and he said he’s been trying to get my attention over the years.

DBM: Do you trust him?

Naomi: He’s been a good friend to me. Looking back, I talk to him a lot on phone than I would admit. He told me he’s been in love with me for the longest time, and even sees himself being the father of my children.

DBM: What was going through your mind at this point?

Naomi: I’ve closely observed his behavior and I think I trust in his love for me.

DBM: How does he relate to/with your other female colleagues at work?

Naomi: He is respectful towards everyone at work but he singles me out always, when I am in the company of others – just to be of help to me. Everybody jokes about his ‘love’ for me at the office.

DBM: Oh, so it’s public knowledge that he’s got a thing for you?

Naomi: Sort of.

DBM: Do you know where he stays?

Naomi: Yes. I’ve been to his house a couple of times to buy fresh produce. He’s introduced me to his mother and siblings

DBM: As his what?

Naomi: Boss and friend.

DBM: Are you, his boss?

Naomi: Not really! We all work for the same Agency

DBM: I see

Naomi: He asked for my permission to kiss me when we got to my house

DBM: I like this guy

Naomi: I like him more, Dave

DBM: A man who cares about you enough to acknowledge and respect your boundaries is a keeper

Naomi: I read a lot of the comments on your Facebook, after you published our chat

DBM: Did you understand the concerns of most of the women?

Naomi: I did, but as I told you, this will be my first time in a love relationship. I want to own my own experience so I can have a story about love to tell myself. I like Kwasi because he treats me with kindness and gentleness. He is always available to me. He is an intelligent young man. I know he doesn’t see it, but I do. And I want to be the one to illuminate his smartness before his own eyes.

DBM: You believe in his potential

Naomi: I do. I know his truth; he is a struggling young man with so much to offer

DBM: You’re a good woman

Naomi: Thank you! I will give myself permission to date him to see how it goes. That doesn’t mean I will sacrifice or compromise myself

DBM: So, my question again is, is this love you are feeling for him?

Naomi: Dave, I have been pushed to open myself up completely to him. He sees me. He understands me. He cares about me. And in spite of the probability of me getting played, I am risking it anyways because I feel like I am with the right person I need to be with. If that is not love, then I don’t know. Theoretically, we may not be the perfect match but I want to also make the choice of him for a boyfriend – and do my best to make it work between us.

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