Update: Grandma’s Necklace
Reba: David, I have an update for you. My grandmother’s gold necklace has been returned to me. Everything is intact and just as it was before my husband stole it from the safe. Thank you for letting me use your platform to vent.
David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Oh! That’s good news. He did the right thing returning it.
Reba: My husband didn’t bring it to me. It was the girl
DBM: Really?
Reba: Yes. She said she’s part of a women’s group on whatsapp and our conversation was shared by one of your followers for their group to discuss. She read the screenshots and immediately knew it was about her. She came to my office, apologized and handed it over.
DBM: She knows where you work?
Reba: I don’t know. My husband might have probably told her.
DBM: What’s going through your mind?
Reba: Dave, I am calling time on my marriage. It’s over. I am very glad that it’s not a difficult decision for me to call it quits because I make money on my own. I am financially independent and not bound to remain married to a cheat and a liar. He stole something precious from me and lied about it. That is to another level.
DBM: What he did was wrong but have you honestly assessed the basis for this decision you’re considering?
Reba: I wouldn’t want to go into detail telling everyone what he did, and so I will be stating irreconcilable differences in the marriage as my reason for divorce.
DBM: I see irreconcilable differences as a challenge for one to work on their marriage and not necessarily, a reason to breakup.
Reba: I don’t think you remember our conversation. My husband committed adultery and also stole from me. Those are serious issues and all the basis I need to divorce him.
DBM: True. I’m a bit sad because prior to you realizing the necklace had been taken, it seemed like everything was going on just fine between you two, no?
Reba: To me, yes, but he was having an affair I knew nothing of.
DBM: You’re right. If I’m ever going to consider divorcing my partner, I know for a fact I would prioritize spending time with my spouse to examine our attitudes about whatever our marital issues are, so we can determine whether or not any one person isn’t placing any undeserved blame on the other. Have you at least tried to have a conversation about repairing what could be broken in the marriage?
Reba: No.
DBM: Why not?
Reba: I don’t think I will ever be able to trust my husband again. I have no respect for him at this moment. It’s best we go our separate ways.
DBM: Do you foresee yourself and life being happy without your husband in it?
Reba: I am a very independent woman, David. I don’t think you realize that. I have prepared my finances such that, I will not be stressed managing my household on a single income. I have planned for my future and that of my children.
DBM: Let’s talk about the day-to-day lives and routine of the children. How is that going to be like?
Reba: I’m keeping one child. He is to keep the other. We both are going to raise a child on a single income, and arrange for them to either meet at my house or his during weekends, holidays and vacations, so they get to be together. I will not burden myself to take full custody of our children, knowing their father is alive and healthy. He needs to also be a parent to one.
DBM: You’re funny. Most women don’t think this way.
Reba: I do.
DBM: Why did you get married?
Reba: I don’t want to revisit the past.
DBM: But was it a good past? That’s what I am intending to understand. This question helps me to always bring meaning to my story with my partner.
Reba: It was a beautiful past. Dave, you’re getting me all emotional. I didn’t come to your inbox to chat. I was just coming to give an update. I’ve got to go.
DBM: I have one last question, please?
Reba: What?
DBM: Are you at peace about your decision to want out of the marriage?
Reba: Yes
DBM: Are you at peace about yourself?
Reba: I am at peace about myself.
DBM: Are you at peace about going through the next chapter of your life on your own terms?
Reba: Yes.
DBM: Okay!
Reba: I almost forgot the juiciest part of the story.
DBM: There’s honey to it too?
Reba: Lol. Before the girl left my office, she asked if any part of me didn’t love my husband, she was begging me to set him free so she can have him. Because every part of her body loves him.
DBM: No!
Reba: Yes
DBM: Hell to the no!
Reba: Lol. Yes, Dave.
DBM: Oh-la-la! The savior of the lover boy has arrived. She’s come to save his heart with her love.
Reba: That was the one thing she said that made me like her. Girl knows what she wants. Lol.
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