Tag: Assumptions

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 147: Ayele is my name

DBM: Hello Ayele. How would you describe yourself?

Ayele: I am simply a Christian. I am a mother, wife and modestly serving the people of God.

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Ayele: 5

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Ayele: I feel very bad doing this but it’s also troubling me. I am married to a gifted man of God. I will not reduce the call on his life just to make a point. My husband is a gifted Prophet of God, but I feel like his priorities are all over the place. He loves the spotlight. He loves to be complimented. He wants to be recognized. He loves the money he is making from his calling. But does he live his private life according to the Word of God? No! Does he really read the Bible and know or understand what it says about some of the things he’s doing in secret? No! Is he the shepherd of our family? No! He would rather please outsiders he benefits financially from, than to please his own wife or make time for his children. I hate to bring all these things up but my husband is very arrogant. He is not humble; he is not a giver. If he’s giving to help someone, it’s because it’s for the show of it, indirectly to get financiers to donate money to his ministry. In other words, he pretends to give to make money at the end. He is very selfish and would make everything about him. It’s been the hardest job to ever take on as his wife

DBM: How long have you been married?

Ayele: 19 years

DBM: Okay!

Ayele: He is doing really bad stuff, and I am unable to say anything. I’m striving to be a good woman of God

DBM: Can you elaborate on the bad stuff?

Ayele: Misuse of church funds. He is very dishonest and a cheat. He takes advantage of vulnerable women seeking his guidance

DBM: Is he a responsible husband and father?

Ayele: He makes a lot of money, and so the finances of the home are always taken care of. My husband doesn’t have time for me. Other people have his time, not me

DBM: When was the last time you said a prayer for your husband?

Ayele: I don’t remember

DBM: Do you pray?

Ayele: I do

DBM: What do you usually pray about?

Ayele: I pray for my children and their future. I pray for myself and my parents and siblings. I pray for the vulnerable congregation at our church who are so trusting of my husband’s antics.

DBM: Did you know all this about him before marrying him?

Ayele: No

DBM: Why did you marry him?

Ayele: Because he asked me to marry him

DBM: Did you want to marry him?

Ayele: I am not sure I did

DBM: So, why did you go ahead with it?

Ayele: He can be very persuasive. He told me I am the woman for him

DBM: But was he the man for you?

Ayele: He wasn’t my type

DBM: Were you single, as at the time he expressed interest in you?

Ayele: Yes

DBM: What specifically did you like about him?

Ayele: I liked his church, and the way he used to preach.

DBM: What has changed?

Ayele: I’ve come to really know his true character, and it’s not pretty from the inside

DBM: Understood

Ayele: Do you think God loves him?

DBM: The kind of love I’ve come to experience from, and understand about GOD is not based on how good or bad one is. You have children, no?

Ayele: I do

DBM: What’s the name of your son?

Ayele: Nana

DBM: Why do you love Nana?

Ayele: Because he’s my child

DBM: So, you love him unconditionally?

Ayele: To some extent, yes.

DBM: You do not love Nana, because he is a good student in school. You do not love Nana, because he is handsome. You do not love Nana, because he is a respectful child.

Ayele: No

DBM: Else, it would be horrifying, no? Imagine him failing in science, or him disfiguring his face or body due to an accident. Imagine him suddenly, becoming stubborn and rude, etc. You get my point?

Ayele: Yes

DBM: Your husband is a child of GOD, if he’s accepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. And, GOD being our heavenly Father, loves him way better than he would ever know how to even love his own children with you. We all sin against GOD in different ways, yet we’re awake this morning. It’s just by the mercy of GOD that we all get to live whichever way we are living our lives. The compassion of GOD is at work on behalf of your husband. GOD is having pity on him, every day as he continues to do what you describe as ‘off’. GOD has not given up on your husband because He sees beyond what your eyes can see. Probably, your husband has the potential to be a better human being someday in the future. Your kids are not perfect, are they?

Ayele: No, they’re not

DBM: They lie, they steal, they fight, etc.

Ayele: Yes

DBM: As humans, we all have the ability within to sin, and GOD knows this

Ayele: Hmmm!

DBM: Your husband will figure himself out at the right time. GOD does not love him because he’s doing something right or wrong. He just loves him because GOD is love. Just keep trusting GOD. He will come through for you and your family.

Ayele: Amen!

DBM: Just as you and your husband agreed to marry (for whatever reason, best known to the both of you), prayed for the gift of the womb, and now have children you loved before they were even born. Have you even thought about it; you loved your children way before you considered the kind of names to give them – when they were born. You loved your son Nana, before you knew what he was going to even look like. GOD’s love for us is deep eh!

Ayele: I am smiling

DBM: Why are you smiling?

Ayele: I don’t know how to explain it, but you’re making a lot of sense.

DBM: GOD will bring your husband to his knees. Just leave him to GOD, and do right by yourself, family and GOD.

Ayele: Yes sir. Dave, I think you can be a preacher, a really good one.

DBM: Thank you! Well, I’ve come to that point in my life now – where I know the call upon my very existence. I’m taking my relationship with GOD very seriously, and have decided to give all that is within me to Him, and Him alone. You can follow my ministry  https://audiomack.com/davidbondze

I am recording an 18-track Gospel Album to bless any heart willing to be blessed. I am strictly going to talk about my understanding of the love of GOD, from my own personal experience with Him. Every month, I will release an original song GOD has blessed me with, to be a blessing unto anyone seeking encouragement in the Lord.

Ayele: Okay!

DBM: Participant 146, Sono, left a question for you: ‘what do you know or have heard about David Bondze-Mbir, and why do you follow him on Facebook?’

Ayele: I follow you because I love how organized your Facebook platform is; very mature and engaging. I also love to read about other people’s experiences in marriages when they share them with you.

DBM: Oh, okay! The question also says, ‘what do you know or have heard about me’

Ayele: I’ve heard two things that I don’t know whether they’re true or false.

DBM: You mind sharing?

Ayele: I heard you’re Gay

DBM: I see

Ayele: Are you Gay?

DBM: I am a human being without societal labels

Ayele: What does that mean?

DBM: It means I do not subscribe to people’s interpretations of what they think of me

Ayele: Does it not bother you?

DBM: No! I live a very happy and fulfilled life. GOD has been good to me. We all make assumptions of people, whether true or not. I give room to people who choose to single me out as a person, and monitor me more closely. It’s a healthy exercise for their time.

Ayele: The second rumor I’ve heard is that, you sleep with some of the married women who come to your inbox to share their marital issues.

DBM: I have never slept with any married woman in my life

Ayele: How about the single women you chat with in your inbox?

DBM: I have never slept with any of the ladies who have approached me on social media to share their problems with me.

Ayele: How about those who approach you in person?

DBM; I am naturally not an outgoing person, so I hardly would meet random people – for whatever reason.

Ayele: Okay!

DBM: Anymore?

Ayele: No, just these.

DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant

Ayele: What teacher in school made the most impact on you, and why?

DBM: Thank you!

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