Let’s Talk To Apor Part 2
David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Apor, thank you for agreeing to a second interview
Apor: Good news! 😁
DBM: Can she cook?
Apor: She loves to cook 😁
DBM: You’re funny. Lol! I am happy to know
Apor: I’m happy for me
DBM: Smh! 😊
Apor: My date went well
DBM: Tell me all about it
Apor: First, I was very fulfilled because she seems to have something equally going on with her life. She knows herself and what makes her happy
DBM: What brings her joy?
Apor: She’s a teacher, and she says whenever she sees her students light up because they’d understood something she was teaching, that, for her, is everything
DBM: That’s nice to know
Apor: Yeah!
DBM: Did you have fun on Wednesday?
Apor: I did. She made me feel like I could be myself. At a point, it did not even occur to me that we were two strangers getting to know each other. I wasn’t concerned about where the boundaries were because I could speak freely about anything, and make jokes about everything. It felt like I was with an old friend.
DBM: And she felt same?
Apor: I think so. When I got home after the date, I was staring at my phone wondering what to say to her next.
DBM: Hehehehe! Did you message her?
Apor: No. I needed time to reflect on the date.
DBM: Did she reach out to you that evening?
Apor: No!
DBM: Wait, as in, none of you texted to find out whether or not you had safely gotten home?
Apor: We didn’t.
DBM: Why didn’t you?
Apor: I assumed she was home and safe.
DBM: Smh! Is she worth a second date?
Apor: We went on date number two yesterday.
DBM: Oh my! You’ve been busy 😊
Apor: She made me laugh, and I think her sense of humor matches mine. We talked with each other for so long, we didn’t realize five hours had passed. Dave, to be honest, I didn’t want the date to end
DBM: Awww! You feel you’re attracted to her?
Apor: I am. We made a lot of eye contact, and held hands on many occasions. We hugged for like one million hours when it was time to go our separate ways.
DBM: I am very happy for you.
Apor: Thank you!
DBM: What did you talk about?
Apor: We talked about our lives, jobs, families, friends, food 😁
DBM: Hehehehe! What’s her favorite food?
Apor: Banku with grilled tilapia, and hot pepper
DBM: Lol!
Apor: She looked so beautiful on Wednesday and Saturday.
DBM: You really were paying attention to her
Apor: I didn’t want to miss a thing.
DBM: Good for you
Apor: I have a question
DBM: Ask
Apor: When do I start taking our conversation to a sexual place?
DBM: Did your first date involve anything sexual?
Apor: No!
DBM: Prior to Wednesday’s and Saturday’s meet, were you texting anything sexual with her?
Apor: No!
DBM: Then, you haven’t traversed that borderline yet.
Apor: But I can’t stop thinking about it
DBM: If sex is on your mind, then don’t be afraid to raise it in one of your conversations with her. If she’s on the same page as you, she would follow your lead.
Apor: But how do I start without sending the wrong message?
DBM: What’s her name?
Apor: Adjoa
DBM: ‘Adjoa, I’ve been thinking about you the whole of this morning’
Apor: But she’s in church
DBM: And so?
Apor: What if she asks what about her, I have been thinking about?
DBM: What do you want to do to her?
Apor: Dave, Lol!
DBM: Yes?
Apor: Okay, what about I want to kiss her?
DBM: That’s sexy, I think.
Apor: Are you sure?
DBM: So far as it’s going to create the impression that, you’d still want to get to know her better with your clothes on, that’s totally okay – in my opinion.
Apor: But do you think she’s also thinking the same?
DBM: Women love sex as much as men do
Apor: Even after a second date?
DBM: You wouldn’t know until you ask if she’s okay with sexting.
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