Tag: Men

100% To 50%

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

David, good morning. My husband talks a lot. And because he talks a lot, he lies a lot so that he doesn’t have to sit with himself and listen. He doesn’t realize this but he talks to distract himself from the quiet reality of what the real problem is. He is always trying to ‘fix’ me or other people’s problems but hates it when others do it to him. He did something that broke the jar of trust I used to pour in him. I tried to forgive but I couldn’t, and so I did something almost similar to what he had done and I guess he couldn’t stomach the feelings that my activities invoked within him.

Dave, do you guys for a second consider our feelings when you do shitty stuff in hiding and except us to shoulder the emotional weight of your unhealthy actions? Seriously, it got to a point in our marriage I had to tell myself to stop casting myself as the only human being who could make my husband happy. There are certain unrealistic expectations I refuse to look forward to in a man. It’s an incredible burden women ought not put on themselves. But that doesn’t mean we are a horrible couple.

My husband intentionally broke our bond and was expecting me to heal our wounded marriage. Make this make sense to me. When in reality his initial actions had nothing to do with me. I am not part of the stereotypes strongly crowning women to handle pain better than men. Dave, you guys should know that you have been dishing out hurt, disrespect, betrayals and all forms of abuse to women for centuries. You engage us and think you can do anything and get away with it? Isn’t it humbling even for you to picture the sorts of bullshit your gender is constantly, inflicting on women?

Ask a lot of the women on your platform. Many have become the punching bags of their inconsiderate husbands. They are living with so much frustration because these men are refusing to hear or listen to them when they complain about what they’re doing, or not doing, which is causing them enormous pain. Husbands who have become masters of all sorts of unbearable pain at their home; giving it – not taking it. And you know the annoying part? How you guys would twist the very pain you cause so we feel it’s our fault.

My happiness and peace of mind as a woman, and a wife is not my husband’s responsibility. But if you’re coming to me in the name of love, then your intention should be to contribute or add to my peace and not to disrupt it. Dave, no woman is perfect but the truth is that, if a woman is doing something and she realizes that it’s hurting her man, she would stop it as soon as she finds out. My husband, on the other hand needs a convincing reason to change and it needs to be more compelling than my unhappiness or misery. How wicked can a man be?

The way you speak to, and treat your wife reflects in how she behaves. I don’t know how the universe arranged it but that’s how it is. Your wife will take the form and shape that will reproduce you in ways you have probably never imagined. So, if you start from giving a 100% of you in the relationship, do not shortchange yourself later on to give a 50% because the excitement has faded on your part. Or you suddenly know what’s up because you have come into a little money. Listen, a God-fearing woman naturally is motivated to do what is right by you simply by understanding that her actions or inactions hurt you. If you continue to break her, you will have to learn the hard way – that you are married to a woman who just doesn’t care anymore if her actions hurt or offends you, so long as she gets what she wants. And, she will get what she wants.

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It’s Not Rocket Science

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

Hey, I have a question. I am a certain guy’s serious woman. He is married but he wants to be with me. I have different men that are attracted to me, including some of his very close friends. I really like some of the guys expressing interest in me but it doesn’t mean I have got to date and sleep with them all. I want to sleep with some but not all, that’s the truth. Sexual pleasures aside, I feel like it would be nice to simply have choices and options. It’s a human thing to desire more than just one. Men can do it; women can do it.

Three guys I am currently considering have the perfect qualities that I want in my men. They’re easygoing and the right dudes to get along with. They are wonderful communicators and very masculine. I am very much the submissive and feminine type of gal and will be loyal to all the men in my life. Luckily for me, they have all proven to be my type and I want to swing them along. Let me also mention that, I am the type that wouldn’t hesitate to discard a man when something better comes along. I can go the extra mile of even having your baby and still move on to something better the next day. That is why I am particular when it comes to the type of man; he has to have the means to take care of a situation in our situation.

The guy who sees me as his serious woman isn’t someone, I truly care for to begin with. I love his ability to provide and make me feel special but I usually date more than one guy before discussing exclusivity. Most of the men who find me attractive are either married or dating. Dave, I know you’re already thinking I am being a total cunt by dating multiple men behind their backs. I don’t want them to know. Guys take offense when they realize the woman they’re sleeping with or dating is entertaining other dudes. I don’t want any one to feel like they’re just an option I am leading on for the while to later deny.

I feel like women know when they find their person. I am not talking about a crush that any man would easily know without us having to say it blatantly. The crush many of us ladies fake to draw your attention when you have the goods/little money to make us feel comfortable is not subtle when it comes to making you know that we have the hots for you. Usually, this kind of hots is not for your heart but wallet. The deeper your pocket, the crazier we make you think we have fallen for you. That is not the ‘our person’ I am referring to. This is just by the way Dave, if you must crack your medulla oblongata trying to figure out if a fine girl is into you or not, then the chances are she’s probably not. This is just a free advice to all the men who can’t seem to get the hint to move on in their search.

There are two amongst my top three guys that every chance that I get to be in their presence, I find myself glancing at. They are so appealing they force smiles out of me. I am happy to see them because one lightens me up while the other cheers me up. I am curious about their lives and why they are attracted to me. Dave, I can confidently tell you that if any of these two are the last voices I would ever hear before sleeping at night, I would be fine. I flow with their energy and vibe. They are fun to be around because I sense a strong emotional connection that precedes the obvious physical attraction.

If I go down on a friend of the guy I am seeing, will he tell his friend about us and our unusual connection?

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Let’s Talk To Kerry

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 157: Kerry

DBM: Hello Kerry. How would you describe yourself?

Kerry: A fun puzzle

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Kerry: Six

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Kerry: I have a complex job that advocates and engages in the practice of going nude with my clients.

DBM: Prostitution, you mean?

Kerry: No! Sex is not part of the services I provide. I have an office that books my clients. They enter my chambers for a session, and we sit and talk, while naked.

DBM: What do you talk about?

Kerry: It depends on what the client wants to talk about

DBM: Your clientele attracts which gender?

Kerry: Men only

DBM: I see

Kerry: Time inside and outside of each session with a client is prearranged and well spent. We end up always achieving a fruitful outcome within specific time constraints.

DBM: Are you married?

Kerry: Yes. My husband and I have kids together

DBM: He knows about the kind of job you do?

Kerry: He doesn’t. He only knows about my other profession

DBM: Which is?

Kerry: I prefer not sharing that information

DBM: So, you’re a counselor of a sort – with this particular gig?

Kerry: I am a channel most men choose to reason with.

DBM: What is so special about this other job you do?

Kerry: It gives my clients the opportunity to get to understand women, and also, talk about the issues that brought them to me.

DBM: What is the demographic analysis of your clients?

Kerry: 60 to 65 percent of the men are married, 30% just dating and the 5% single. They’re between the ages of 34 to 55 years. I am not sure how to categorize their income criteria. They work in different sectors across board.

DBM: All the men come to you to discuss the women in their lives?

Kerry: Most do; others just come to stare at me and talk about whatever is on their minds at the time.

DBM: You work with a staff?

Kerry: I have a receptionist and two security or body guards at post

DBM: They know what you do in your chambers?

Kerry: Not sure

DBM: Why do you have to be naked with your clients?

Kerry: Every man loves to admire a naked woman to the fullest

DBM: Every straight man, you mean?

Kerry: Lol! Yeah, I guess. Lol! I have a great body, though I am not so proud of everything about me. But it seems like most of these guys don’t even mind what I see to be flaws on my body. They see me, and the first things they all say is, ‘you’re a very beautiful lady’.

DBM: I see. Remind me again, the men ought to be naked too, no?

Kerry: When you enter my offices, your booking and time is confirmed by the receptionist, and then my attention is drawn to your presence. One of the security men then leads you to the first chamber, and closes the door behind you. Every chamber has a scent. The men smell it the minute they walk in the door. It’s an intentional process in forming the first impression they may or not have of me. There is a video of me on a 65-inch TV screen, welcoming the client and giving a few instructions before walking to the main chamber to meet with me. One of the instructions is to get undressed.

DBM: Why is that important?

Kerry: I feed my eyes too, though the main objective is to help the men based on their exact challenges. Every client I have come in contact with desires to touch me, or cuddle with my soft body. We all go naked because I want them to feel good at the sight of something so soft without the fear of feeling judged or ruining their experiences with me. We basically turn ourselves on by staring at each other, before the mutual conversations start.

DBM: Is it a safe environment to find yourself in, with a naked man?

Kerry: There are cameras in the chambers and my security is a button push away from me. It’s been a safe practice so far.

DBM: You mind me asking how much you charge?

Kerry: 45 minutes with me is Ghs 1,200

DBM: Is business good?

Kerry: Business is really good.

DBM: Clients every day?

Kerry: Every day. Most return because I am good at tailoring our conversations to each client’s needs, preferences and expectations

DBM: You work on weekends?

Kerry: No. And I don’t work when I’m on my period

DBM: What is the one theme running through the conversations your clients have with you?

Kerry: They want to satisfy their desire, and simply move on with their lives

DBM: I see

Kerry: I reached out to you because I don’t know how my husband will perceive me if he’s to find out about this service I provide.

DBM: How would you feel if he were to be providing similar services to women?

Kerry: I don’t know how I would feel

DBM: Would you be able to trust him?

Kerry: I don’t know

DBM: Would you believe him if he told you he wasn’t sleeping with any of his clients?

Kerry: No!

DBM: Why not?

Kerry: A lot of things goes through a man’s mind when he sees the nakedness of a beautiful woman.

DBM: Even in a professional setting?

Kerry: Yeah!

DBM: Participant 156, Price, left a question for you: ‘Do you have the courage to be lonely?’

Kerry: Being lonely sometimes becomes a quiet time to enjoy my own company. I get to know and understand myself better. I don’t have to be seeing myself through the eyes of people. Yeah, I have the courage to be lonely.

DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant

Kerry: If you had Ghs 155,000 in your account, and your husband or wife stole Ghs 15,000 from you, would you be upset and throw all the remaining Ghs 140,000 away in hopes of getting back at your husband or wife? Or move on and live?

DBM: Thank you!

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Let’s Talk To Dexter

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 152: My name is Dexter

DBM: Hi Dexter. How would you describe yourself?

Dexter: Rosemond’s husband

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Dexter: Seven

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Dexter: This is not a popular opinion but mine with women. The women I have been with, including my wife, all seem to shoot blanks when it comes to their dealings with me. This includes my wife’s interpretations of my actions as a man, and her husband in our marriage. The least-appealing thing I do, and a woman in my life is resentful of me. Bro, guys are simple people oo

DBM: We can be simple, I concur

Dexter: I don’t need much to be happy with my life, unlike my wife. I am a man of few things, just like what you will find in my wardrobe.

DBM: What do you need to be satisfied, as Rosemond’s husband?

Dexter: I want my respect, our shared mutual affection and great sex. Dave, that’s all I want from a woman

DBM: Does your wife make available to you these needs?

Dexter: You remember the scale you put me on from 1 to 10?

DBM: Yes

Dexter: I am 7 because she supplies my needs the best way possible

DBM: Is 7 enough?

Dexter: I wouldn’t mind a 9

DBM: Can she get you to a nine?

Dexter: My wife can work hard to help me achieve it. She’s focused and has a clear vision of how she wants her marriage to be. She’s determined to get what she wants and deserves.

DBM: But do you also deserve a woman like your wife?

Dexter: I think I do. I will do anything for that woman. Dave, won’t you do anything for the one you love?

DBM: I am loved well, so yes.

Dexter: A man is a simple thing to figure out.

DBM: I am a communications person but would hardly communicate my concerns in my relationship. How do you talk about serious issues bothering you in your marriage?

Dexter: My wife knows how to measure my level of happiness. She can tell between my moods to know I am unhappy about something. We fight, we argue, but it doesn’t extend. For her, she will make sure she’s heard – if my actions or attitude bothers her. She doesn’t believe in silence when something is troubling her. She does not expect me to read her mind, while she can talk about it.

DBM: I see

Dexter: I married a woman who ensures that both she and those close to, and around her are treated with respect and dignity. My wife will always get to the point when she has something on her mind to discuss

DBM: What if you’re not in the mood to reason with her?

Dexter: The truth is, avoiding a conversation you’re not interested in doesn’t resolve the problem at stake. She knows how to gently help me put my pride aside to talk about difficult issues.

DBM: And, are you able to sit and talk?

Dexter: Always

DBM: How so?

Dexter: She rewards me when I prioritize what is important to her

DBM: Do you do it because you know there is a reward you like being offered you at the end?

Dexter: Yes and no. Yes, because I love the reward she presents. When a naked woman sits on my lap to discuss what she feels I am doing wrong to hurt her feelings, what do you think I would do? Turn away from such a conversation?

DBM: Sex is the reward?

Dexter: Sex should be one of the kind gestures towards reconciliation.

DBM: After the sex, then what?

Dexter: Happiness on her face, smiles, positive energy and mood, love at every glance, special attention, happy wife, happy husband

DBM: Smh!

Dexter: What?

DBM: How long have you been married?

Dexter: 13 years

DBM: Nice

Dexter: I am proud of myself when I am able to make my wife happy. That’s what I live for, as her husband

DBM: I see. What else comes to mind when you think of your wife?

Dexter: Being her protector and lover. My wife is not my best friend. I have a best friend. But she is my closest friend.

DBM: Who is your best friend?

Dexter: A childhood friend

DBM: Male or female?

Dexter: Female

DBM: I see

Dexter: She’s married

DBM: But you’ve tapped that A$$?

Dexter: That was before I met my wife

DBM: Why didn’t it work out?

Dexter: We weren’t good as a couple, but we are solid as friends

DBM: She feels this same way about you?

Dexter: Yes. It was her idea to break things off. She found her right guy to love. I am her right friend to relate to.

DBM: Do you miss her as an intimate friend?

Dexter: No. I like our friendship better

DBM: Have you cheated on your wife before?

Dexter: Yes, once

DBM: How long ago?

Dexter: 8 years ago, I think

DBM: What led to that?

Dexter: I was out of Ghana to further my education

DBM: So, it happened while you were away?

Dexter: Yes

DBM: Did you love the other woman?

Dexter: It was an arrangement. No strings attached. She needed it for herself too. Sex buddies and study mates.

DBM: Where is she now?

Dexter: I haven’t stayed in touch with her since returning home

DBM: Does your wife know?

Dexter: She doesn’t

DBM: Why not?

Dexter: She doesn’t have to know every bad decision I make. I’ve owned up to myself with this wrong deed. I know I made a bad decision, and I’ve taken responsibility of my action. I am doing better so far.

DBM: My prayer every morning is to at least, try to do right by GOD, do right by myself and do right by others, specifically, my significant other.

Dexter: There is no excuse for what I did. That’s the reason why I do not see the need to hurt her feelings by telling her.

DBM: Participant 151, Forrest, left a question for you: ‘How do you process the feelings of confusion or loss?’

Dexter: We have a lot more clarity than we think of ourselves as a people. I am able to reason with myself to not get carried away when down.

DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant

Dexter: Share with me a moment in your life that you will never forget

DBM: Thank you!

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Let’s Talk To Amakai

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog. 3 Comments

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 63: I’m Amakai

DBM: Hello Amakai. How would you describe yourself?

Amakai: A mother, wife, hard worker, kind, and very easygoing

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Amakai: I’ll say 5

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Amakai: My husband cums about four times inside me before pulling out during sex. He thinks I don’t know when he ejaculates, because he tries so hard not to make any noise to give up his emotions. He continues after a few seconds of rest, whiles in me till he’s cum the second, third or forth time, before pulling out. I read a message he sent to one of his secret side chicks that he can last over 15 minutes in bed. 15 minutes of precums isn’t a lasting to boast about.

DBM: Well, pulling out around such pleasurable, intense feelings isn’t feasible.

Amakai: It’s not fun either for me

DBM: What has your husband’s confidence, self-worth, connection and validation got to do with your assessment of him?

Amakai: He’s not good in bed

DBM: Have you told him that?

Amakai: No, because it’s not worth it. He’s always thinking with his dick.

DBM: Most guys do

Amakai: Can’t a man cum just once, take in the moment, rest for a while, before thinking of the next round?

DBM: Would you willingly give in to a second round after he’s taken that long break – you’re proposing?

Amakai: I might. But even if I don’t, I’m still his wife and he can always get another intimate moment with me the next day.

DBM: How many times do you two have sex in a week?

Amakai: At most, twice or thrice. It depends on our schedule for the week. We have children and our respective professional careers to attend to.

DBM: Most guys want sex all the time. Do you know that?

Amakai: Most women do not want sex all the time. Do you know that? Because I am in this category

DBM: Does your husband know you do not like too much of sex?

Amakai: Yes. It was one of the first conversations we had while dating.

DBM: And he said he was okay with that?

Amakai: He didn’t have a problem with it

DBM: Did you understand his need for sex when you guys were dating?

Amakai: Yes, and he wasn’t this aggressive to take it all at a go. Now, it’s like he has to have all the sex with me when the opportunity presents itself, because he feels he doesn’t know when I would give in to his demands. That’s the unspoken signal sent me

DBM: If you’re having sex twice in a week, and your husband is the type that loves to have a lot of sex, what do you think is going on in his mind?

Amakai: How would I know? Should everything in marriage be about sex? How about his wife who isn’t so rooted when it comes to sex? How about the wife who is the mother of our children, and is present to them 90% of the time while he is out? How about the wife who also works the 9 to 5 job every week?

DBM: I can only speak from my point of view as a guy. I know a lot of guys connect to their spouses emotionally through sex. Them not having enough sex could force such guys, consciously or unconsciously to have little or no real emotional connection towards you.

Amakai: Dave, I do my best for him in that department.

DBM: How often does he communicate with you on issues?

Amakai: We talk when we have to talk

DBM: When last did he ask about your day?

Amakai: Dave

DBM: Yes?

Amakai: Why all these questions?

DBM: I am trying to have a conversation with you about your husband. Tell me about his mood swings

Amakai: He is simply not a happy guy. There is nothing I can do to change that

DBM: How much time does he spend at home with you and the children?

Amakai: Not much

DBM: What is his typical weekend like?

Amakai: Gym, friends, work, work… work

DBM: Do you get the feeling that your husband desires to be with you?

Amakai: He tries to be there for us

DBM: Whereby ‘us’ means?

Amakai: Home, the children, me, etc.

DBM: I am talking about you; him wanting to be there, specifically for you

Amakai: No

DBM: Then he is not feeling as connected with you

Amakai: That’s not my doing, Dave. He is choosing not to be with his wife who loves him

DBM: A man can love and be in love with you and not be connected to you.

Amakai: Because of sex?

DBM: Just as you would want him to be emotionally supportive and forthcoming, so does he want you to be emotionally connected with/to him, through sex.

Amakai: So, for you guys, everything is about the physical?

DBM: It’s not entirely about physicality; a lot of things are tired to sex for men.

Amakai: Women get tired

DBM: I know

Amakai: Are you sure you guys know that? Because if it were left to my husband alone, he’d prefer I stop all that I would be doing just to attend to his sexual needs

DBM: How about choosing to also interpret such calls to mean, your husband’s desperation to want to be close to his beloved wife?

Amakai: So, because I am his wife, I am obligated to have sex with him in order to keep him around?

DBM: That’s not what I am saying. There are men out there who can have zero sex with their women, and still choose to be excited about, be faithful to, and be emotionally attracted to them.

Amakai: That is not the man I am married to

DBM: You know him best. But please do not pull away your trust for his masculine energy and direction. Wake up your feminine energy

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Let’s Talk To Titanium

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog. 1 Comment

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 60: Titanium is my nickname

DBM: Hi Titanium. How would you describe yourself?

Titanium: I am the captain of my ship, cruising all around with a few guests on board. Some of the guests are making crazy demands, and I am giving in to a few of their requests. This is causing my ship to drift from right to left on the sea.

DBM: Is that not scary?

Titanium: It is, but I am loving it at the same time.

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Titanium: 6

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Titanium: I fall in love faster than I cum. Dave, I am so visual and it’s scaring the shid outta me. I am married but I fall in love with any nice girl that makes me feel special. A fine gal tells me ‘I love you’, and my natural response to her is, ‘I love you too’.

DBM: Lol!

Titanium: I’m serious bro

DBM: Why did you marry your wife?

Titanium: She fell in the same category: easy to talk to, trustworthy and attractive. She asked me to marry her

DBM: I see. Were you in love with her?

Titanium: I was. I was in love with the others before and after her too

DBM: How do you know you’re in love with a woman?

Titanium: When she tells me she loves me, and I give my automatic response.

DBM: What type of woman are you attracted to?

Titanium: The types I am not able to stop thinking about. They come in all shapes and sizes

DBM: Most of the times, the key to getting what you want is knowing exactly what you want

Titanium: I know what I want. I love women.

DBM: Do these women you end up with, make you happy?

Titanium: They do

DBM: Do they know you’re not exclusive with them?

Titanium: Yes. I tell them I am married and cannot be in another relationship with them. Some choose to move on while others hang around till they meet someone else. But anytime I am on a date, I prepare myself for what might or not happen at the end of the date.

DBM: What usually happens after the first date?

Titanium: We have sex, and then end up becoming emotionally attached to each other – even though we may not be ready for that

DBM: And, are these women you go on dates and sleep with, right for you?

Titanium: We usually have great chemistry, and I am drawn to them

DBM: Drawn to them in which sense?

Titanium: They make me a part of their plans

DBM: Does chemistry become love for you?

Titanium: Sometimes, yes!

DBM: Is your marriage balanced?

Titanium: My wife is perfect; nothing wrong with her. Nothing wrong with our marriage. I don’t know if it’s because she’s given me too much space and freedom?

DBM: But you mentioned earlier you were like this, prior to meeting your wife, no?

Titanium: Yes

DBM: Okay!

Titanium: I am the problem

DBM: How do you feel after coming to the realization that – your wife married a whole project and that, she should be hitting her head to a brick wall because you will never change?

Titanium: I sometimes feel horrible

DBM: You know that, in-as-much-as you cannot control your thoughts and feelings, you have every control over your actions?

Titanium: I know, but the girls of today are very attractive. It’s difficult not to lose focus

DBM: There is always someone attractive everywhere we go. However, genuine intimacy with the right person isn’t found everywhere

Titanium: True

DBM: What are your priorities in life right now?

Titanium: I want to make a shitload of money from my business, so I can take care of my children, wife and women. It will make me very happy, and also, calm me down.

DBM: If I am getting the order right, money is your first priority?

Titanium: I need to earn to take care of myself and family

DBM: Your children come second?

Titanium: Yeah!

DBM: How many kids do you have?

Titanium: My wife may chance upon this conversation if you publish it. I don’t want to reveal so much about my personal life.

DBM: Alright!

Titanium: Dave, I make time for my wife. I give her my full presence whenever we are together. I am a good husband and father.

DBM: Okay!

Titanium: I care about her

DBM: Imagine your wife being the exact carbon-copy of your character; would you have allowed yourself to be caught up in the web of believing that you could fix her to be committed solely to you – forgoing all others?

Titanium: She doesn’t know about this side of me. She’s not affected in any way

DBM: But she’s going to figure you out someday soon

Titanium: Till then…

DBM: Is your wife the most compatible for you?

Titanium: No, but I am willing to wipe the puke off her face, sit by her bedside at the hospital for as long as possible, support her in the good and bad times. I’ve got her back

DBM: Good for you.

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Let’s Talk To IBML

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog. 1 Comment

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 33: IBML

DBM: Meaning?

IBML: In-between my legs

DBM: Smh!

IBML: Gidday Dave

DBM: G’day IBML. Please tell me a little about yourself

IBML: I am passionate about unlimiting my capabilities, redefining what is and what is not plausible and just embracing my life outside of my typical repertoire. I am able and adequate enough to reach my desires and goals; I offer companionship to resourceful men and I get paid to spend time with them. I am 36 years of age, single, and a teacher.

DBM: What do you teach?

IBML: I teach in the Biological and Medical Physics areas. I am a PhD holder. My employers are the tertiary institutions.

DBM: What does your average day look like?

IBML: Today is Saturday; I woke up, brushed my teeth, had a quick shower, fed my dogs, had my breakfast, did a little bit of cleaning and arranging around the house; took my bath and went out to get groceries. I did in all, three hours of TV, social media and a movie; texting and talking to my friends in-between; engaged a client I will be meeting tonight to offer him companionship, and now chatting with you.

DBM: How would you describe yourself?

IBML: I am a professional woman, who is not putting her private life on the back burner

DBM: What do you want in life?

IBML: I don’t want it all, that, I know for certain. I also have a schedule that fits my needs, and that does not include having a family, if that is your question.

DBM: I see

IBML: I work close to 58 hours a week, and this leaves pretty much little time for me to focus on anything else.

DBM: Is marriage a decision you would ever make?

IBML: I know people in good marriages and I will encourage anyone who has met a good person who is single and available to them; someone who is kind and will respect their relationship with them, to consider marriage – if it’s a topic for discussion on the table. I am just not interested in that concept.

DBM: Why is that?

IBML: I am speaking from my experiences with my clients. The married men I offer my services to do not see the need to respect the value of their commitments to their spouses. It’s like, they intentionally would put themselves in a position to have the option of losing their wives. Most of my clients are bored with their wives and marriages. And Dave, the typical man wants to progress in his life. That’s the unfortunate truth women don’t seem to pay attention to.

DBM: Interesting

IBML: My clients pay a lot of money for my time; so, when I am dressed up and look all seasoned for tonight’s encounter for example, he sees me, and in his eyes, I am the very expensive meal on the menu.

DBM: But it’s not all about sex?

IBML: Dave, a menu is a comprehensive list of interesting options offered to a customer when they come into contact with what they want or need or desire. I offer an extensive variety of choices, and each service is priced differently, based on the effort to be put into it. I am always in charge of my kitchen; I keep a strict tab on every move I make and ensure to be making profit at the end of the day.

DBM: What drove you into this job?

IBML: I think the men I come across generally find me attractive, and I appeal more to a certain class of them. Unfortunately, a higher percentage of that class happen to be married. Most are rich and can afford to get away with cheating on their wives. One man actually told me, he’s been caught a few times by his wife, but he’s managed to always weasel his way back into her heart.

DBM: So, it’s because you attract them?

IBML: Not entirely. I crave for sex a lot, and it can be a dilemma to deal with. I’m not addicted to it, but once I think it, I want it again… and again… and again. I think I look sexy and more attractive because of the constant sex I have. And I have explored all my sexual fantasies to better understand my own body and its needs, especially when it comes to receiving pleasure. I love the idea of variety, that’s why I cannot see myself settling with just one man.

DBM: Okay!

IBML: If I am to be in a relationship or married, my husband can put a limit on my sexual exploits. As a single woman, I am free of the expectations of a spouse’s need for my time and attention. I choose whom to dedicate my time and attention to, of course, at a fee.

DBM: I get you.

IBML: It’s all about the choices one makes to validate their routine

DBM: How long have you been in this work?

IBML: Since age 21

DBM: At night, when you are alone, are you pleased with your self and accomplishments?

IBML: I am not ashamed of who I am; I am not ashamed of what I do. In fact, I am pleased with the fact that, I don’t keep all my eggs in one basket. The men I come into contact with all know it’s a service I provide. I’ve not lied to anyone to be in a for better and for worse relationship with. I’ve always kept my options open. And as a career woman, I have always kept a back-up plan handy. No one knows tomorrow, so a Plan B is always within my reach

DBM: What is the one good thing about your work with men?

IBML: I’ve come to understand what most guys want from a woman.

DBM: What do men want?

IBML: They want us to drive them nuts – in a fun, cool way. My clients like it when I wear lacy underwear and dance seductively for them. I think it stimulates them visually, and drives them wild. Whenever I look in the eyes of a client while I slowly undress, I feel their minds racing all around me. It’s like, they’re imagining what could come next as my next move.

DBM: Probably because you have a flawless body

IBML: My physique is nothing close to flawless. My clients hardly pay any attention to the flaws on my body when I am busy turning them on. It’s all about getting them involved in the fun. I think men want the same things women want: companionship, friendship, and chemistry. They want to be loved, served, and given space when they need it. When they’re around me, they get to laugh a lot; I randomly would touch them, and they touch back. I hug them, and they hug back.

DBM: Served what?

IBML: Basically, great sex to sustain the connection in the relationship, and also, releasing stress and tension. After the sex is serving him good food. Cook him something to fill his belly.

DBM: You cook for them?

IBML: I don’t, but I order homemade meals to be delivered to us. It’s all in the package I offer.

DBM: I see

IBML: I don’t manipulate them to have things done my way, like how most of them feel their wives do. Before they book for my services, they already know I choose them from a place of want, not desperation. And, I certainly ask for my wants and needs to be met. I am courageous and strong like that.

DBM: What is the worst thing about your work?

IBML: I cannot predict the behavior of a new client. If it’s an in-call service, I choose the location. If it’s an out-call service, then I have to go visit at a location chosen by him. Some clients are not who they say they are, and if you’re not careful…

DBM: Are you friends with your clients?

IBML: A lot of them are pleased with my services and keep the working relationship ongoing. But some are just a once-off situation.

DBM: Have you ever been attracted to your clients?

IBML: I don’t get my emotions involved. Secondly, most of these clients are not available to be taken. They’re already married.

DBM: Have they been attracted to you?

IBML: A lot of them have, but they’re aware it’s a job for me to make them feel good. So, it’s not just about one person’s feelings.

DBM: If I gave you the opportunity to say something to the married women reading this conversation, what would you say?

IBML: Your husband will look at the other woman who is hotter, sexier, smarter and beautiful than you, and that is not something he can easily control. It doesn’t make him inconsiderate. He is fighting his sexual urges. Clients tell me because their wives have zero percent chance of finding out about their extracurricular activities with other people, they get away with cheating. Some know they’ve got a good thing at home with you and they do consider your feelings while with me; others know what they’ve got to lose but just don’t care. Clients pay for my services because with me, they’re on the receiving end. I rock their world doing all the hard work with their best friend, the penis. Yes, I said it: your husband’s best friend is not you. His best friend is not his colleague at work or the guy who played his best man at your wedding. His best friend is not a childhood mate. Have breakfast in bed with that guy in-between your husband’s legs.

DBM: Thank you for availing yourself to this chat

IBML: You have to chat with our other friend.

DBM: I would appreciate it if you could put in a word

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