MY EWE SYRUP
David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)
Participant 12: Would love to use Vicky.
DBM: Tell me anything about yourself
VICKY: Well, I am 34yrs of age and a business woman. I am a lovely lady and I care very much about people, especially the needy. I am a very private person. I don’t easily forgive wrong doings, thus my reason for always ensuring I am in my lane😂(I am still working on myself).
DBM: How long have you been married?
VICKY: I have been married for 9yrs.
DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?
VICKY: Dave, I am chubby in person😄, and so I always admire the slim and not too tall type of men. I am glad I got exactly as I wanted.
DBM: So, how did you two meet?
VICKY: Hmmm! Very interesting one there😄. I used to read one newspaper called (Ebony) in the early 2000s. And there was a particular story that we followed all the time for updates; just after every episode you can choose to write comments by posting it through the Post office; in a week’s time your comments got published. I happen to post mine together with my email address and phone number. Phone those days weren’t in use much, and so email was most times the tool for easy communication. My husband, then an unknown friend, fell in love with my name (tribe). Our friendship started from Yahoo mail in a matter of four good years before we met face to face. We married within nine months after we met.
DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?
VICKY: Not really, especially at the first six years of our marriage, but now I can say yes! I have learned to trust him, though at times because of his judgmental attitude I switch, but then, I am still on it. It’s better.
DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?
VICKY: He becomes very excited when I see different ladies with back and front loads, and I prompt him to take a glance, (he can’t pretend ooo)
DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?
VICKY: I wasn’t certain about him at first – because he rescued me from a broken heart, even though he had no idea about that past. I decided to marry him to shame my ex. I remember I couldn’t control my tears on my wedding day, in which the witnesses present misunderstood to be tears of joy, but trust me, it wasn’t.
I thought of the regret but we move la. My husband’s intelligence, smartness and faithful love towards me, when I had a miscarriage for the first time in our marriage, followed by a stillbirth of an eight months old pregnancy, and later had premature twins etc. This man stood by me in all the odds; that was when I realized I had gotten 99% types of a good man. I then sat down one day and accessed myself, and left the past behind me. Since then, I have given my all to this marriage.
DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?
VICKY: Yes, very well! His style of dressing, his neatness and above all, his very energetic nature in bed😂. (You can’t joke with Ewe men)
DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?
VICKY: I do listen to understand but as I said, his judgement on issues sometimes puts me off. Though I know he is very mature in mind, and some of the issues he addresses to are true, I try not to get all worked up, and so I overlook certain things just to grant him an audience.
DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?
VICKY: He is perfect! He is good in all aspects of life, and I like the intellectual aspects of him too. My husband is a very responsible family man.
DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?
VICKY: To love and to hold, till death.
DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?
VICKY: When we go for outings, especially far away from home.
DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?
VICKY: Yes! Very well (especially for the past 4yrs)
DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?
VICKY: Yes! 98%.
DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?
VICKY: Mostly, when he is at home; but these days I realize that quality time to be spent is fading gradually, because of the phone. I work with my phone most of the times and I wish he could understand me a little bit.
DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?
VICKY: For now Yes.
DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?
VICKY: Dave! Yes 💯%
DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?
VICKY: Growing stronger and healthier, and always advising our three boys on life issues.
DBM: What is your ideal sex life?
VICKY: Dave, I will be the happiest woman on earth the day I will reach that thing called orgasm 😂 Not that he is not good in bed ooo, we do explore various types of sex but still… I asked my mum and only sister about it, and they said same. I then proceeded to see a doctor and upon a series of tests, they came to the conclusion of it probably being a genetic issue. I was raped at a very tender age, and I learnt it could also be a factor.
DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)
VICKY: 9/10. Hoping for the best.
DBM: What is your understanding of love?
VICKY: Sacrificing for each other, being committed, and also listening to your partner without making him or her feel less in any way.
DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?
VICKY: Very well! He also tries his best to put a smile on my face, and I hope things will turn out good soon.
DBM: Are you a good spouse?
VICKY: Yes! I am really trying my best, Dave.
DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?
VICKY: Never! It is something I will find very difficult to forgive, if he’s to cheat on me. And so, I promised never to try it at all.
DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart:
VICKY: My Chipolonpolon husband,
I have grown to love you now. I can’t live without you these days; kindly trust and believe in me. Everything will be fine. I am a work in progress wai. Stay healthy for me and stop catching BP. My body and soul are all for you. Happy yourself, na life is too short to be thinking of unnecessary issues.
Image Credit: Mike Jones
