Tag: Smiles

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 134: It’s Quinton

DBM: Hi Quinton. How would you describe yourself?

Quinton: I know when to step in, take over or encourage.

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Quinton: 8

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Quinton: Her phone rang under the bench next to the neem tree. It might have fallen from her bag. It rang the second time before I could locate it and answer. She was at the saloon, calling with her hairdresser’s phone. I answered and could hear her sigh heavily. I told her where I had found her phone and she explained she was there 35 minutes prior to read, eat and meditate. She wanted to come back for it but I asked for the location to the saloon, since she didn’t drive. When I first saw her, she just another girl, nice face though but just another nice face. I gave the phone to her and she wouldn’t stop thanking me. She mentioned her name; again, just another nice name. I went back to my car and she walked towards me, ‘boss, I didn’t get your name’, she asked. She did not get my name because I didn’t mention it. I told her my name, and she speculated aloud, why I hadn’t asked for her phone number yet. I laughed, she smiled and there it was – something peculiar, her smile. The smile got me hooked. I wasn’t in a hurry to leave for a meeting anymore.

DBM: Hehehe. I love to see people wear their smiles too

Quinton: We started talking and before I realized, I was in the saloon waiting for her hair to be fixed. Before I realized, I was paying for her beautiful hairstyle. Before I realized, I was taking her out to eat. Before I realized, I was driving her home. Before I realized, I was extending my right had to shake hers. Before I realized, she was hugging me. Before I realized, I had walked her to her door. Before I realized, I was kissing her passionately.

DBM: All this in a day?

Quinton: All of that in six hours.

DBM: At this point, I mean, after the first kiss, what was going through your mind?

Quinton: Do you believe love can be found in six hours?

DBM: Yes

Quinton: Are you sure?

DBM: I am very sure

Quinton: Great, because I instantly knew I had found the woman I could marry

DBM: You mind me asking how you knew?

Quinton: I felt an instant connection to her. I rescheduled an important meeting just to spend time with her at the saloon. That was so un-like me. I hadn’t felt anything so strong like that before. It was a good feeling that engulfed me that day

DBM: All because of her smile?

Quinton: That is what a good smile can do

DBM: What did you talk about when you took her out to eat that day?

Quinton: We talked about ourselves, families, dreams and aspirations – and with every passing minute, I slowly witnessed something extraordinarily true, large and amazing unfolding right before my eyes with every word she spoke.

DBM: How old were you?

Quinton: 36

DBM: How old was she?

Quinton: 35

DBM: Oh, nice! And, how long have you two been together?

Quinton: We’ve been married for 8 years. We dated for a year.

DBM: Kids?

Quinton: We have a son

DBM: How is marriage life?

Quinton: It’s an interesting journey to embark on. I always thought my wife was perfect till I realized she had flaws too. Whenever she does something to get on my nerves, I look back at the 90% good in her to teach my temper how not to shout. She’s not mean nor petty. She doesn’t number all of my wrongs to remind me of them; She gives me my space; I allow her hers. Respect is mutual, the friendship is tight, the love is deep. There is always that new window into our lives because we try doing things differently, to see the other sides to us. Sex is magnificent. There is something special about my wife that I am always attracted to every day, and she feels the same way about me too.

DBM: Have you cheated on your wife before?

Quinton: I found myself in an emotional entanglement 4 years ago with my Personal Assistant. It wasn’t a physical pursuit, but emotionally, it was something deep.

DBM: You loved her?

Quinton: I liked her

DBM: Do you like your wife?

Quinton: I like my wife

DBM: Is the ‘affair’ still ongoing or it ended?

Quinton: I had to end it

DBM: Why?

Quinton: Somehow, my wife suspected I could be having an affair, so she confronted me about it. I felt very embarrassed she found out her husband could be an unfaithful man.

DBM: Well… At least, you weren’t physical with the other woman, no?

Quinton: Cheating emotionally can be just as destructive to my marriage as a physical affair would.

DBM: True. How did your PA suddenly become something else on your mind?

Quinton: It started innocently, actually. We work together most of the time during the week. We see each other a lot in a work at the office. Work relationship turned to friendship and she began confiding in me about her personal life. I don’t know how it happened but I started sharing my personal thoughts and plans with her too. As the days went by, the level of familiarity between us augmented. I didn’t see it escalating into something else till my wife asked me if I was seeing another woman.

DBM: What was your response to her question?

Quinton: I told her I could be falling in love with another woman.

DBM: What was her reaction?

Quinton: She asked me to put a stop to it because it would hurt her feelings, and that, she may not be able to come back to what we have should I go ahead and cheat.

DBM: What’s your wife’s profession?

Quinton: She’s a teacher

DBM: Did you put an end to it?

Quinton: I did. It’s not been my style to hurt my wife’s feelings. She means the world to me

DBM: Participant 133, Leroy, left a question for you: ‘You own a crystal ball that could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your past, present, the future and anything else. What would you want to know?’

Quinton: My past with women was not pleasant. I could fake a serious degree of romantic interests just to get laid. I knew how to become the answer to a woman’s prayer, and then, leave them broken afterwards. This is a part of me I am no longer proud of. What I would want to know is, how my wife has become the woman I run to when I am not happy, the person I trust to open up to about anything… The woman who made me believe in love again.

DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant

Quinton: Where lies your belief, God, luck or numerology?

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