Let’s Talk To Ginger

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 28: Ginger

DBM: Hehehehe! Why that name?

Ginger: I am punchy and fragrant, warming and spicy, and absolutely fresh

DBM: You’re funny. Lol!

Ginger: I help to make meat softer by breaking down its proteins.

DBM: Okay! But on a serious note, I unquestionably adore ginger when I cook with it.

Ginger: I know you cook. I have seen some of the pictures you post on Facebook when you cook at home. Are you rich?

DBM: I am not rich, yet

Ginger: But you have money?

DBM: I don’t at the moment.

Ginger: Are you married?

DBM: No, I am not.

Ginger: Would you want to cum extremely intensely within 60 seconds?

DBM: No, thank you.

Ginger: Ugh! Dave you’re so boring.

DBM: Why do you think that?

Ginger: You asked Lydia to speak to one of us, I volunteered. You need to let me set the balls rolling.

DBM: Hehehehe! You’re a hot mess

Ginger: Allow me to mess with you a bit. Let me jerk you off, while I suck at the base of your dick; the upper part of your balls I mean… Yeah, right there, on that urethra. Do you feel something?

DBM: I want to know a bit about you.

Ginger: Dave, I’m showing you a bit about me. Let me use my hand on the shaft of your dick, as I use my mouth on the head, rotating my tongue and mouth around it, and over it to stimulate you fully.

DBM: Please tell me a little about yourself.

Ginger: Smh! I hold an MA in English Literary Studies from the University of York; I am 36-ish years old, a single-mother of a 5-year-old child; I have a preference for nonmonogamy attachments, I am level-headed and fun to be with.

DBM: Why do you prefer a non-monogamy relationship?

Ginger: I am more career-oriented. Any form of long-term committed relationship can take up a lot of my time and attention, and I am just not interested in dividing my energy between my work and romance.

DBM: Is marriage on the table some day in the future?

Ginger: No, not interested. I would rather prefer polyamory or simply an open relationship. I’d rather opt for the type with room for consensual engagement in sexual/emotional involvement with more than one person. Unfortunately, marriage doesn’t allow that.

DBM: I see

Ginger: The complicated nature of my work also makes marriage unappealing to me.

DBM: What kind of work do you do?

Ginger: I met a guy 16 years ago. Very handsome with a good sense of humor. We became friends and I think I fell in love with him. I told him about my feelings and he didn’t want to see me again. He had also formed an emotional attachment with me but didn’t want to pursue it because he didn’t want to mess things up with his wife, whom he loved dearly. I found out he was a married man that day, because he didn’t wear a ring. I asked him what he wanted from me, and he said just to spend time with me to talk. He wanted me to be giving him my attention and sex; good sex with no strings attached.

DBM: Was he the first man you fell in love with?

Ginger: No! I was in a two-year relationship with the first guy I had fallen in love with.

DBM: You took this other guy’s offer?

Ginger: I did, because I liked him a lot. Also, he was willing to pay me money for each encounter. I wasn’t the least upset. I was basically going to be selling my time, attention and entertainment.

DBM: What goes into the entertainment?

Ginger: It entails sexual services most of the time to my clients

DBM: How different is this from prostitution?

Ginger: Very different. Prostitutes are all about providing sexual services in exchange for money. I provide far in value to my clients.

DBM: What made things end between you and your first love?

Ginger: I suggested the opportunity to him. We were struggling then, you know, students with no jobs etc. He wasn’t in agreement, but I wanted to do it because I liked the other man. After my first sex with the married one, I told my boyfriend what I had done, and he broke up with me.

DBM: Do you know where he is now?

Ginger: He is doing very well for himself.

DBM: Is he married, with kids, etc.?

Ginger: Yes.

DBM: When last did you speak with him?

Ginger: Five days ago.

DBM: What did you talk about?

Ginger: He’s one of my clients.

DBM: He pays money for the services you provide him?

Ginger: Yes.

DBM: The same one against you being with a married man?

Ginger: I think the devil he knows is better than someone else he doesn’t know.

DBM: How does this make you feel?

Ginger: Dave, it’s strictly business and friendship. Nothing more than that. He’s a business man and would pay for dinner and traveling dates with me.

DBM: What is your charge?

Ginger: I provide hourly services, and I have more control over the kind of service I provide to my clients. There are clearly outlined terms and conditions.

DBM: Are you affordable?

Ginger: I am not affordable to the ordinary Ghanaian.

DBM: I hear there are five of you friends. What makes a great escort?

Ginger: You don’t need to be a thin fashion model. Beautiful, yes! You have to also have the right figure and stay in good shape. Most of my clients choose me because I am not a reflection of what they have at home.

DBM: Their wives, you mean?

Ginger: Yes! You have to also be extremely intelligent and very educated to attract a certain type of clientele. Communication with clients is everything. I am my own escort business, and I am proud of it.

DBM: Share one of your best experiences with a client with me.

Ginger: Oh, a woman booked me for her husband’s 50^th birthday. She wanted me to provide him a massage, foreplay, good sex and a fair bit of conversation to commemorate his day.

DBM: Oh my!

Ginger: They’re actually one of my favorite clients. I’ve been booked by her for the past six years, on the 11^th of June.

DBM: Is she present when you’re with her husband?

Ginger: She’s been present on three occasions to watch what I do to him.

DBM: At home?

Ginger: No! She always books a hotel suite.

DBM: How is your relationship with this particular man?

Ginger: There is no relationship. I don’t have his contact. I just know his name.

DBM: Did he ask for your number so he could order your services privately?

Ginger: No! He’s never requested for a one-on-one with me before. But he tells me whenever we meet that, he’s always looking forward to seeing me on his birthdays.

DBM: I see.

Ginger: My business is strictly with the wife.

DBM: And, has she ever wondered whether or not you two have been secretly meeting?

Ginger: She’s not had that conversation with me.

DBM: Why do you think is that?

Ginger: She trusts her husband.

DBM: You think the guy is a good guy?

Ginger: He is a good guy. He was very shy on our first meeting. I think he loves his wife.

DBM: And, you’ve not been tempted to go the extra mile with him on separate days?

Ginger: I’m not going to lie; he gives me good sex. But no! He tips on top of the hourly rates his wife pays me on his birthdays.

DBM: How much did his wife pay you on June 11^th, 2022?

Ginger: $2500

DBM: How much did he tip you?

Ginger: $500

DBM: For just one night?

Ginger: 8 pm to 5:30 am.

DBM: Who is the father of your child?

Ginger: A guy I used to date. We met in London.

DBM: A client?

Ginger: It started as a client. We developed feelings and I got pregnant.

DBM: Are you still together?

Ginger: No! He wanted me to abort. I wasn’t sure about abortion.

DBM: Does he take care of his child?

Ginger: He’s a responsible man. They’re both in London, spending the holidays together

DBM: Your friend SL talked about how her husband feels about you.

Ginger: We know how he feels about us.

DBM: How does that make you feel?

Ginger: Our friendship with Lydia goes beyond how her husband feels. We’re a group of friends who have supported each other through school, and have been there for one another, no matter what. We don’t judge, we don’t put each other down or deliberately hurt our feelings; we respect one another; enjoy each other’s company; we are loyal and can trust each other; we laugh and stick around when times are hard for any of us; we comfort when one cries, and smile together. We broke this new year as old friends… And maybe, would make new friends as time goes on. But the five of us have an opportunity to share memories from our past years, while sharing our hopes, dreams and plans for 2023.

DBM: What percentage of your clientele are married?

Ginger: 98% of the guys are.

DBM: What do you think wives aren’t doing to keep their men focused on only them?

Ginger: Guys will be who they want to be. You can’t please them. I think unmarried girls should rather understand the types of men they plan dealing with before deciding on taking the marriage route. Else, you will do everything for a man, but if he is not the right guy to respect his relationship and commitment to you, would end up pouring your all into someone with no plans of returning the same energy and effort. Their false sense of security leads them into looking for people like us. Unfortunately, most men are just not trustworthy.

DBM: How would you describe yourself?

Ginger: I am a happy woman with a child.

DBM: Can you get one of your other friends to chat with me?

Ginger: For sure.

DBM: Thank you!

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