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I’ve been working with one of my exes for 4 years. She wasn’t a fling; we had something solid for 3 years before going our separate ways. Prior to our split she had done 4 abortions. I wasn’t ready to father a child and so I insisted, with the promise we would have kids after marriage. We never married.

Professionally, we make a good team. We interact frequently because we work together on projects. I am married to a wonderful woman. We’ve been together for 8 years. We have 3 children. My ex has been married for 6 years and they’re yet to have an issue. Dave, till she mentioned she’s unable to have children because of the abortions I made her undergo years ago, the workplace wasn’t a minefield of apprehension and disruption for me. Guilt prevents me from pretending I made her undergo that procedure. She is one of the most important people I have ever known, and now I feel bad about what I made her do years ago. She did not want to tell me. It was a conversation I overhead when she was on the phone with her gynecologist. She’s already a big part of my everyday working life. I’ve known about her phone call since November 2021. Before November we had handled ourselves professionally in spite of our awkward history. Now, I am not able to be professional. I am attracted to her again. I know guilt has a role to play in all this but I am beginning to realize I still have a deep-rooted love for her.

I’ve kissed her and hoped we could rekindle a relationship. She’s trying to keep her distance from me because she doesn’t want to revisit our past. I don’t want her to push me away. I am in love with her and I want to make things right. I am at a point where I am entertaining the thought of divorcing my wife for her. I don’t know what’s happening to me. I failed a very good woman for another good woman that I want to now divorce so I can go back to my ex. I don’t want to talk to any counsellor. I am looking for practical views from people who can understand what I am feeling.

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I am not sure of the father of one of my children. I am just anxious because a brilliant opportunity has been presented to me by my baby’s daddy. I am married with children – one of the kids is not my husband’s. This incident happened a few years ago and my husband doesn’t know. We had hit rock bottom and I accidentally fell in a convenient arm when he visited Ghana. Uncle Dave, my periods were regular, so I knew when I was most fertile. That is how I was able to work out who the dad is; I have done a DNA test and I was right. The father of this particular child knows about it.

He wants to play an active role in the child’s upbringing. He has told me that he has developed feelings for him too. Everything happened so fast for me. We slept together before I told him I was married. I didn’t know I had fallen out of love with my husband. I have been tolerating my husband all this while and I feel sad for me. I am secretly preparing to send the child to the UK, to the biological father.

I am also planning not to return to Ghana. I will be traveling as the fiancée of the other man. My children will be in good hands. Their father is a good man. Also, my husband is having a secret relationship with a good woman. I know he will not feel alone. I am feeling guilty because of the children I will be leaving behind. I want to know if there is anyone among your followers who forgave a mother who abandoned them.

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I am a 33 years old married woman with 2 children, 3 years and 7 months respectively. We’ve been married for 3 years; I recently realized that my husband has been so protective of his phone, he will spend hours and hours in the bathroom on his phone anytime he has to use the place. This raised my suspension and moreover, his work is such that he has to be traveling sometimes both outside the country and outside of Accra. I got access to his phone recently whiles he was sleeping and realized he has been having a flirtatious chat with an ex. Someone he told me cheated on him with another guy whiles they were dating. In fact,  that was why he ended their relationship.

I realized he has set the lady up with her fashion business, and this happened after our marriage (a year after our marriage). He has been talking to the lady about his building plans, the same building plans we have as a family (telling her about all he has done concerning our dream home). I also realized she was not the only lady he flirts with, there are others. Another lady who confessed to him being her crush whiles they were in junior high school, and engaging in his usual flirtatious messages. Afraid of being left in the dark (not prepared for what is coming) I confronted him, and all he could do was get annoyed for touching his phone, and me not being appreciative of the husband I have; because when he is not on his usual business trips, he is always home (working from home); and that, he is better than most of the men out there. He used his own brothers as examples, they have given birth outside their marriages and he hasn’t. He was unapologetic of his actions.

I decided to go on the ex’s page to see what she looks like and why my husband is behaving that way. I realized she got married this year, and in almost all of her photos on FB, my husband has commented on how sweet she is (not before our marriage). I had the same cheating issue with the guy I was dating and that made me leave him, I am very worried I have ended up in this same issue, something I have been running away from. Okay, so the crazy person I am has dug down to this ex’s information on her husband and have given it to a friend of mine who is single to start chatting, and if possible, end up seducing. If my friend ends up falling for this guy, then that’s her problem not mine. But please David, I don’t know what to do for my husband to stop all this.

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I just took a decision, which means I’m on a journey to being a single parent. I don’t know how it should feel, but all I know is I feel really NUMB at the moment. I met my husband in 2015, unfortunately I got pregnant for him in 2016 and we got married in 2017. We currently have two boys and I’ve decided I’m tired of the lies, deceit and manipulation.

My husband has such a sweet demeanor; if you’re a stranger you’d think he’s an angel on earth. And I fell for all of his tricks and pretense. Well, pregnancy happened along the line and my people just concluded we got married, because clearly, we were in love. Everything changed after I birthed my first son. Numerous provocative and flirtatious chats. I’ve tried leaving several times because for me, cheating is a deal breaker in a relationship. But he always run to my parents and they in their wisdom always convince me to go back to him.

Later on, my second son came into the picture. I’ve never caught him cheating but messages on his phone clearly insinuate he’s been sleeping around. I’ve made up my mind to leave now. I just left the house after a heated argument and I don’t intend going back. He locked the door to stop me from leaving and even called my mom, because to him, they’ll never accept me back home or they’ll convince me to stay. This is a man who has beaten me before when I was pregnant. I’m currently at my big brother’s house but I need a way out permanently. I run a small business that doesn’t bring in much.

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