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Let’s Talk To Calvary

Written by David B on July 1, 2024. Posted in Blog.

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 184: My name is Calvary

DBM: Hi Calvary. How would you describe yourself?

Calvary: A once in a lifetime kind of woman

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Calvary: I am 5-ish today. It may change tomorrow

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Calvary: I came up with a solution to solve my husband’s weak ejaculation problem. His erectile dysfunction is a cause for concern in our marriage. And I wasn’t ready to start looking elsewhere to find good sex, that is why I thought through this idea before executing it.

DBM: What do you mean by weak ejaculation?

Calvary: Ne kɔteɛ nu ejaculation decreased in force and volume

DBM: I see. So, what was your brilliant idea?

Calvary: Viagra solution

DBM: 😊 Good for him

Calvary: He doesn’t know he’s taking it

DBM: How do you mean?

Calvary: I mix in with his soup, drinks, stew, tea, etc. on a daily basis. Well, depending on what he’s asking me to prepare or give to him at home.

DBM: But that is wrong, no?

Calvary: How is it wrong?

DBM: Did the two of you consult with a doctor about what’s best for him?

Calvary: I figured it out myself. His ego wouldn’t allow him to see a doctor.

DBM: How do you know?

Calvary: He’s my husband, I know him.

DBM: Is it working?

Calvary: Not the way I was hoping it would.

DBM: How long have you been doing this to him?

Calvary: Since the beginning of the year

DBM: What you are doing is criminal

Calvary: It’s not

DBM: Are you your husband’s doctor?

Calvary: Lol!

DBM: No, I’m being serious.

Calvary: I know what I’m doing

DBM: Have you considered your husband’s overall health?

Calvary: He’s fine

DBM: Has he any medical conditions he’s being treated for?

Calvary: Not really

DBM: Meaning, you’re not sure?

Calvary: He’s healthy, believe me. Just a little high pressure here and there but that’s all.

DBM: Viagra may or not be safe for men with high blood pressure. It actually interacts negatively with certain medications

Calvary: How do you know? Are you on Viagra?

DBM: No, but I’m just saying! I know it should only be taken once a day

Calvary: I will be careful

DBM: It’s not about being careful. You are drugging your husband

Calvary: I am healing the sick

DBM: What is the appropriate doze given him?

Calvary: I mix 20-mg tablet into whatever liquid I serve him. With the exception of water

DBM: The day he will experience a heart attack or die, remember to inform his family you were mixing Viagra to feed him.

Calvary: I have another pressing issue to discuss

DBM: What?

Calvary: There is this guy that I think I am attracted to. He is not available but I feel like we connect in our own special way.

DBM: He is not available, meaning?

Calvary: He is married

DBM: Are you available?

Calvary: I want to be for him – if he’s willing to avail himself too

DBM: Why?

Calvary: He is something my husband is not

DBM: What?

Calvary: Very considerate and caring, and kind.

DBM: And?

Calvary: Successful

DBM: In other words?

Calvary: Lol! Rich

DBM: Was he in the picture before your husband?

Calvary: Yes, but we hadn’t discovered our attraction for each other

DBM: When did you realize you liked him?

Calvary: When he told me he couldn’t stop thinking about me

DBM: Why is he thinking about you?

Calvary: That’s the same question I’ve been asking myself

DBM: Why are you thinking about him?

Calvary: He’s the kind of man I want for a husband

DBM: But he is married

Calvary: I know

DBM: What kind of man is your husband?

Calvary: He is my family. He is a wonderful man. I love him very much but I may just not be in love with him anymore

DBM: We all had to make the decision to wind up with strangers we ‘fell in love’ with, who later became our family. We are not supposed to stay in love with them all the time. The intense attraction is a temporary phase that is supposed to keep us together for a period, so deeper and meaningful feelings of love can develop and take root in us. You can choose to toy with the idea of fucking it all up.

Calvary: But don’t you also think life is rather too short to be married to the wrong person?

DBM: Are you married to the wrong man?

Calvary: Sometimes, I feel like I am

DBM: Then discuss the direction your marriage is going with your husband, so you can consider ending with him to see where things might go with the other guy.

Calvary: It’s not that simple

DBM: Do you see your husband truly happy with someone else?

Calvary: Yes

DBM: There’s your answer

Calvary: I am not in love with him

DBM: I believe you. Your answer to my question just clarified that

Calvary: Marriage is not easy. Hmmm!

DBM: When a bond you once shared weakens, your marriage automatically becomes vulnerable to outside factors that sometimes, damages it further. To stay married is a choice I make every single day, because I am content with what I have for a partner.

Calvary: I am not content with what I have

DBM: Very well understood. Your destiny is always in your hands, and so influence, direct and control your own narrative of love. Make your love-life what you want it to be, and with whoever you may want it to be with.

Calvary: Thank you!

DBM: Participant 183, Sabrina, left a question for you: ‘Why did your relationship with your ex not work out?’

Calvary: We grew apart

DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant.

Calvary: Are you voting Bawumia or Mahama, and why?

DBM: Thank you!

Image Credit: Rdne

Let’s Talk To Malik

Written by David B on May 1, 2023. Posted in Blog. 1 Comment

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)

Participant 93: Malik

DBM: Hi Malik. How would you describe yourself?

Malik: Empty. The supply of fuel that could drive my ability to take crazy risks and be confident in myself is no longer in service

DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

Malik: 2

DBM: What do you want to talk about?

Malik: I think my wife has done something to me. I cannot get an erection when I am with another woman. I am only able to keep an erection around my wife.

DBM: How old are you?

Malik: 40

DBM: And, is this an occasional episode or the norm?

Malik: I am unable to get an erection with any other woman except my wife

DBM: Are you an excessive alcohol taker?

Malik: No! I drink occasionally

DBM: Do you do drugs?

Malik: No!

DBM: Are you a smoker?

Malik: I smoke once in a while

DBM: Do you take any sedatives?

Malik: Not really

DBM: Are you on any medications, i.e., antidepressants?

Malik: No!

DBM: Are you on any blood pressure medications?

Malik: My heart is in a good place, no.

DBM: Are you depressed or anxious of anything?

Malik: Yes! I can’t get my dick hard anymore when I am with other women

DBM: Are you under any kind of stress, aside your immediate problem?

Malik: No!

DBM: What is your self-esteem level?

Malik: Very low, because of the problem

DBM: Have you gone to see a doctor?

Malik: No

DBM: Why not?

Malik: Something is telling me it’s my wife behind all this.

DBM: What makes you think your wife could be involved?

Malik: We had a big argument last year, in July. We ignored each other for days when we were sleeping in separate bedrooms. I had a dream in one of those nights about finding money in our trash. My grandma always says, if you dream about accidentally finding money in a pile of trash, wake up from your sleep and check the trashcan. Because you’re in bad luck. It’s a bad omen; you or someone close to you is either going to die or a misfortune would befall you. When I woke up in the morning, I felt a mild but sharp jab in my left hip – like someone had injected a substance into my body. I went to check the garbage can outside the main house, and there was a syringe and smaller-sized needle thrown in it. The syringe had a red substance in it

DBM: Did you confirm the content in the syringe?

Malik: I did not. I just assumed it was blood

DBM: Blood from where?

Malik: I don’t know

DBM: Is your wife a nurse or doctor?

Malik: She’s not

DBM: Where did the syringe and needle come from?

Malik: It should have come from our house because the trashcan is in the main compound of our home. I asked my wife about it and she was acting all surprised

DBM: What if she genuinely, did not know anything about it?

Malik: It couldn’t have come from the kids because they hate hospitals and injection

DBM: So, on what grounds are you suspecting your wife?

Malik: I couldn’t be aroused that afternoon, when I met with one of my girlfriends. She tried every trick in her books to get me hard but it wouldn’t respond. This is a girl I had been having mad sex with for years. I couldn’t even masturbate on my own. The moment my wife returned home from work and I smelled her body scent, I naturally got a hard-on

DBM: That’s strange

Malik: Tell me about it!

DBM: How long have you been married?

Malik: 11 years

DBM: When did you first notice the problem outside your home?

Malik: July 6^th 2022

DBM: When did you feel the pain in your hip?

Malik: The morning of July 6^th

DBM: I see

Malik: I have three close friends I have fun with. I haven’t been able to fuck any of them ladies since

DBM: Erections are mysterious, and they do have a mind of their own. I think you need to consider seeing a doctor – just to be sure you’re on the safe side.

Malik: My wife has done something to me

DBM: Have you confronted her about your suspicions?

Malik: No!

DBM: What did you argue about last July?

Malik: She came across one of my escapades through WhatsApp and made a mountain out of a molehill. Husbands will cheat, we will get caught. If you can’t understand that a man will ultimately disappoint you, just walk your separate way. What is difficult about this?

DBM: Most women fear to be alone. Reason why some stay in terrible situations

Malik: What is terrible about having a little fun here and there?

DBM: What is your definition of ‘a little fun…’

Malik: David, for me sex is sex to satisfy my urges. I do not have to be in love to enjoy sex. Marriage is marriage. These two can never overlap in my books. It cannot affect my love for my wife. And I have no intention of leaving my wife.

DBM: Good to know! Now that you’re unable to be with other women, use the cuddle and care of your wife to sooth your broken ego.

Malik: What she’s done to me is a crime, and I don’t know how to prove it. After damaging my manhood, she’s refused to be available to me; she’s refused to have sex with me. She doesn’t care and has been sleeping with the children in their rooms. The only person who can give me sex is punishing me by not giving me sex. Why cause me so much pain in the first place and then refuse to take away my pain? I am deeply broken. Women are evil

DBM: Go and see a doctor. That is what you need to do

Malik: Will it change anything?

DBM: It can help you stop impugning your wife for your misery and unhappiness. You are solely responsible for your low self-image. Get yourself fixed.

Malik: If I were a woman, you would have been way empathetic towards my plight

DBM: I genuinely am concerned about you. What I am trying to get you to understand is that, you assumed other women, and not your wife could make you feel good about yourself. And masked your true feelings from the one woman whose opinions should have mattered to you the most. You don’t take a woman for a fool and expect her to open her legs for you that easily

Malik: I am her husband

DBM: Then stop blaming your wife for your failures

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