ONE AND THE SAME

David, hi!

There is a first to everything. I want to share an experience I had. I used to be the typical guy who never noticed small things as big. I was not very attentive and people around me were exasperated. I never understood why. If it’s not my main purpose at a specific time, I hardly notice anything. Okay, I saw a lady in a nice dress at Boti Falls in 2011. First, it was her colorful dress. I saw her face and she was nice. I kept seeing her in-between the rest of the trip in the Eastern Region. It wasn’t a big coincidence because most tourists were going to the same spots. We did not talk.

2012, I saw her again at Mole National Park. We noticed the coincidence in this. We smiled, and still did not interact. 2014, I bumped into her at Wli Waterfalls. She laughed and said, “Hello!”. Apparently, we had similar travel styles and tastes. 2015, I joined a holiday trip to Kintampo Falls, organized by a company. It was an open trip to the general public who could afford the fee. We went by bus. Dave, guess who just happened to sit next to me on our bus? Yep! The lady from 2011, 2012 and 2014.

I didn’t waste time. I asked for her number. I asked if she was single. “Yes”. I was single too. The trip was my first date with her and it was exhilarating and nerve-wrecking. I already had drawn parallels between our mutual interests in sightseeing. I wasn’t sure how to direct our conversations, and so I commented on the dress she had worn to Boti Falls. She was surprised I could remember. She wasn’t interested in what I did for a living. She was rather interested in my background and line of thinking. She was paying attention to how I was responding to her questions. Before we arrived in Kintampo, she had gauged my character.

Four months later, I knew she was the ‘The One’. We married in 2016, and have been together since. Emotionally, we are not distant. I work long hours but I have not lost my ability to balance my job and home life. I don’t feel neglected or taken for granted. My wife says she hasn’t felt that too. We have a lot of intimate conversations via WhatsApp during work days. When we argue or disagree and engage in our shouting matches, there is no resentment. We yell in our fights rather than hate each other. 2011, 2012, 2014 and 2015 made me realize that there is no other woman out there meant for me.

‘Till death do us part’ doesn’t scare me. Most buddies of mine are cheating on their wives because they believe there are people out there that they are missing their chances to be with, because they settled with their significant others. ‘What if’ doesn’t influence me to stray, because I’ve made a decision to only see the good in my wife when I am tempted not to. I don’t need any other proof to know that I am with the right woman. I am confident in my love for my wife to the extent that, I refuse to give in to illicit desires.

Men can be good if they choose to be good!

Image Credit: Anna Shvets