Dinner Talks

One of the ladies is in her third marriage, which is now in its 24th year. She is 56 years of age, and her partner is 62. He is in his second marriage to/with her. (C.A) The second couple have been married for 19 years, and they’re each other’s first marriage. The lady is 48 and her partner is 53. (S.O) The third family is in their 40th year of marriage and are both in their mid-seventies. (P.U) The fourth couple have done 12 years in marriage; she is 41 and her partner is 37. It’s the 37-year-old guy’s first marriage while the 41-year-old is in her second marriage. (K.G). (D.M) are the fifth couple and youngest in marriage. They’re both 39 years of age.

WHY DID YOU CHOOSE TO SETTLE DOWN WITH YOUR SPOUSE?

C.A: We chose each other with both foots in.
S.O: We were not compatible but we were content with how we had grown and learned to fit in each other’s lives as friends.
P.U: We could handle our lives even when it got messy.
K.G: We made each other happy and wanted to take advantage of the experience. We understood tomorrow isn’t promised.
D.M: We just knew we were what we wanted for each other. It was a crazy decision but we took it regardless.

IS LOVE WORTH SACRIFICING FOR?

C.A: Of course; love is all about sacrifice
S.O: Yes
P.U: I cater for my wife’s needs at all times. I will do anything in my capacity to make her happy. She makes the same effort for me
K.G: It is. We are worth sacrificing for
D.M: Indeed! We’ve been intentional about doing the best we can to put the other at ease.

WHAT MISTAKES HAVE YOU MADE IN THIS MARRIAGE?

C.A: Cheating on C
S.O: Having an affair and almost costing my marriage to O
P.U: Not standing up for myself earlier in the relationship when P was taking me for granted
K.G: Cheating and lying to G
D.M: Taking for granted M’s need to want to be in my embrace, with our hands wrapped around each other in a cuddle. I have always wanted my space and didn’t want anyone touching or breathing around me while asleep.

ARE YOU CONTENT WITH YOUR PARTNER?

C.A: Yes
S.O: Yes
P.U: Yes
K.G: Yes
D.M: Yes

DO YOU SEE YOURSELF CHEATING ON YOUR SPOUSE?

C: No!
A: I doubt that
S: I don’t think so
O: No!
P: Not sure
U: No!
K: Not really
G: No!
D: I don’t know

M: No!

WHO GETS ON THE NERVES OF THE OTHER WITH A BAD CHARACTER?

C: A
A: I do
S: Me
O: S
P: I can be bad
U: P
K: I’m a rough diamond
G: K
D: I can be a handful
M: D

WHAT IS YOUR GOAL FOR YOUR MARRIAGE?

C: Make it a human experience with less expectations
A: To make it a success story
S: Grow together as a team
O: Build something meaningful and exceptional together
P: To experience new things together to draw us closer
U: To always have something to aim for so I don’t lose interest in my husband
K: Make good memories
G: Glorifying God in all situations
D: Finding my purpose in M’s life and fulfilling it
M: Finding a middle point where we both can be happy

IS LOVING AND/BEING WITH ONLY YOUR PARTNER ENOUGH FOR YOU?

C: Yes
A: No
S: One woman cannot satisfy a man’s needs
O: Yes
P: I believe so
U: Yes
K: It depends on how creative the other is willing to become
G: Yes
D: I can choose to be content.
M: Yes

LESSON LEARNT THUS FAR FROM YOUR EXPERIENCE

C: Make your spouse your priority, appreciate and value them.
A: It’s okay to sometimes go to bed mad. A good night’s sleep can help open up your emotions and also guide you to fight fairly.
S: It’s not always important to be right. Just be kind
O: Marriage will not be the center of my life. I have a life of my own to live
P: Have a lot of sex and be physically intimate
U: Not to allow our children to take up so much of our mental space, energy and money. My husband gets equal share of my energy and we spend on ourselves and have a lot of fun.
K: Our marriage is a partnership and has not always been 50/50
G: Communicate and try to understand the other person. This will lead to support and ultimately, love
D: Your marriage, your choice. Get your start with your partner, and GOD, and so not be distracted by the opinions of others.
M: I do not say things I do not mean to regret later. I’ve learnt when to hold my tongue

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