Date Me! (Q&A) 1

Hello Kara Naa Akushika

Thank you for your question and nice to meet you. When I first met my late wife, I just knew what I felt for her, though it’s hard to sometimes describe. With Bernice, my feelings developed months after I had buried my first wife. I didn’t know I had fallen in love with her that much until the night to her wedding. I realized I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. Those were the raw feelings that let me know that I could be living a real-life version of my own rom-com.

The morning of their wedding, I was supposed to call and wish her the best of luck but I didn’t. I was sad that she was going to marry a man she loved. I remember when I was interacting with her father in their house while we waited for her to get dressed, I told my father-in-law his daughter was one of the most important people I cared about at work. Bernice is the type that would stay late to help when her colleague is buried in work.

When I first interviewed her as a candidate for a role, before she left the premises of our offices, she had sent the whole interview panel a lovely thank-you note. We already had agreed she would be shortlisted, however, her thank-you note sealed it for me. It was thoughtful. It was prompt. It was beautifully written. Post-interview, the panel felt good about her, but after reading the kind words, we all loved her.

To answer your question, I didn’t know my true feelings for her until the night before her wedding. Bernice began to take up a major real estate in my thoughts. And I remember thinking that I had never experienced that with anyone. Not even my late wife. But the good thing is, I wasn’t eager to ruin her wedding day with my selfish feelings for her. It didn’t matter if it meant me losing my chance to love her. I was willing to continue to respect and support her relationship with Rex.