Easy Pet Name

Harriet: Hello David. My mother-in-law wants me to be calling my husband by a title I’m uncomfortable with. I have my own simple pet name I call him by and he’s always been responsive to it. My MiL thinks I’m not being respectful to her son.

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): What name is she suggesting?

Harriet: I can’t say because my husband occasionally reads from your page.

DBM: Is your husband in agreement with his mother’s suggestion?

Harriet: No.

DBM: How do you usually call him?

Harriet: Babe, baby or simply by his first name. It’s an easy flow on my tongue. We’re very close and comfortable with each other.

DBM: My mother, for as long as I have known her calls my father ‘Mewura’. I think it means ‘My Lord’. It has been part of her language and ways of communicating with him. It used to be a sign of her affection towards him. I don’t know what it means to her now but she still calls him by that.

Harriet: Yeah, I’m not cut for those heavy ones. Lol.

DBM: So, do you. Use the pet name you feel intensifies your attachment to your guy. These unique names are like the divide between being fucked and being made love to. There is a difference and a level of attachment to each. Your mother in-law isn’t the one married to him.

Harriet: She’s moved in with us for a couple of months.

DBM: Why?

Harriet: I can’t give details but she’s going to be here till February, 2026.

DBM: What is your relationship like with her?

Harriet: We’re cool. She likes me. I like her. She loves our children.

DBM: She’s not all over your case, is she?

Harriet: She’s not but lately, has been drawing my attention to how I address my husband.

DBM: I don’t know what else to say. I came up with my own pet name for my partner before we even got married, and it has been the same name I use today. There’s something sexy and intimate about it – it’s a name we both approve, respond to and own. I see it as our special language between us that makes us feel like it’s just us, and then everyone else.

Harriet: What do you suggest?

DBM: Tell your mother in-law to stay in her lane. Or, there is the option of you calling your husband by her suggestion when she’s around and then doing you when you’re alone with him.

Harriet: She’s always around the house now, listening to everything.

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