YESTERDAY TODAY
Dear David,
Can I use a personal experience to speak to ladies who read from your Facebook page? The man I used to love yesterday belongs to someone else today. Before today, we wanted to explore life; me and my ex-husband. We started life together living in a one-bedroom apartment, somewhere in Dzorwulu. We started adjusting to the wind and grind of real life after our wedding and honeymoon quickly. We were naked to win. It was a girl. We lay bare two years later, it was a boy. Dave, I follow through a promise; everything I said before ‘I do’, I meant it. So, you can imagine when I grew a sense of shock after the first revelation. It was stunning; it was sad. I was heartbroken. I could not believe my own was her own.
I ran through all my previous moments with my ex-husband that had made me feel loved. I was prepared not to judge him as a man; I was prepared not to judge him as the husband who couldn’t follow through the vows he made to me on the altar. I stayed calm to forgive. In fact, I believe in talking. He said romance between us was dwindling. What could I do to inspire a better sex life? ABCDEFG, he wanted; I did! It spiced things up a bit.
Unfortunately, he couldn’t be the husband he vowed to be weeks later. He couldn’t be the man I needed him to be, and so I had to respect who he was, and choose the man he was or find the man I wanted for me. Dave, there was a great guy underneath all the affairs and lies. My ex-husband has a lot of qualities I want, but he was not the man I needed to be married. I had to be single again.
Six years later, my heart started to pound with strange excitement. Mr. Arthur wanted to ‘Mrs. Arthur’ me. I had two weeks to think about his proposal. All at once, in-between the proposal week, I saw my main gate open. It was my ex-husband.
“I want to make it up to you.”
He wanted a third chance. Dave, have you ever thrown away garbage and gone back to the truck to pick back the trash? 2022 is my 7-year Mrs. Arthur ride. I said “Yes” to Mr. Arthur, because his actions tell me beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is the husband I need. The going has been tough; we fight, but with Mr. Arthur, it is worth every sleepless night and bad days.
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