YEBOAH’S TAKE
David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)
Participant 2: I am Yeboah.
DBM: Tell me anything about yourself
YEBOAH: Yeboah is a caring and loving gentleman who has got his shit together. I am worthy of my wife’s attention, time, love and respect. I do not talk down on people others feel are lesser to me; I respect myself and others.
DBM: How long have you been married?
YEBOAH: I have been married for 10 years.
DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?
YEBOAH: I looked out for a responsible lady; she had to have a job. She had to be emotionally intelligent; a woman who could control her emotional instincts and could demonstrate true maturity when confronted with life’s issues. My wife is a well-grounded individual with a sense of balance when it comes to her finances. Physically, I wanted bortoss kakra on her backside and great east-west standing boobs to cure my asthma. I am cured after a decade with her!
DBM: So, how did you two meet?
YEBOAH: At a friend’s wedding reception. She was physically ready to be talked to, so I talked to her.
DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?
YEBOAH: My wife is my best friend. Though we’ve become so used to each other, our friendship hasn’t dwindled. I feel appreciated, liked and loved by her always.
DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?
YEBOAH: At that same wedding reception. I told her she looked lovelier than the bride (which she did). I drew her attention to the fact that the bridegroom was also checking her out. He was, and we both laughed.
DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?
YEBOAH: When I realized she also loved being near me. She would take my hand and make me feel like I am special to her.
DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?
YEBOAH: My wife is HOT, very attractive.
DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?
YEBOAH: I listen. I am not sure whether it’s to understand her or formulate a response she would like but I let her feel heard.
DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?
YEBOAH: Awesome! Beautiful woman inside-out, excellent wife and an amazing mother to the kids.
DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?
YEBOAH: I used to take my vows seriously because it meant something to me. Forsaking all others was one of my favorite. I was very much in love when I said it to her, but when I encountered Adwoa, Helena, Yaa, Serwah and Sena, I realized I wasn’t going to be able to stick with a lifetime vow.
DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?
YEBOAH: Sex hour is our most fun. We laugh, we experiment, we make the most out of positions; we mess ourselves up and then go bath.
DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?
YEBOAH: Every day! My wife doesn’t sit idle just to watch me provide for her and the kids. She hustles and will always have my back. She defends my honor over all others.
DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?
YEBOAH: 100%. I am fulfilled in my marriage because my wife does what she says. On my part, with the exception of one secret I cannot share with her because it can break her heart, I share everything else with her without the fear of being judged. She is a genuine woman and would not hurt me intentionally.
DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?
YEBOAH: On week days, I am a very busy person, but when I get any free time, I make it a point to spend it with my wife. We hang out, plan date nights, chill, joke, fuck, keep each other company, catch up, etc.
DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?
YEBOAH: I am emotionally taken care of, yes! She’s there for me when I need her to be in it with me.
DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?
YEBOAH: Yes! I am able to share who I am and be vulnerable around her.
DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?
YEBOAH: Growing stronger than ever. In our marriage, I am a student of my wife. I’ve taken the time to learn more about her needs and all that there is to her that makes her different from me. Dave, I know what it feels like when my wife understands me; that is why I aim every day to understand her too.
DBM: What is your ideal sex life?
YEBOAH: Making my wife orgasm without touching her. Her legs shake madly, and goes weak at the knee; she kneels to worship me waist-down with a glorious blowjob. Dave, you don’t want to know details. It’s a calling only a few men can fulfill. I am one of the chosen.
DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)
YEBOAH: 7/10. It can be better.
DBM: What is your understanding of love?
YEBOAH: My wife is my perfect understanding of love: she has taken her time to really get to know me. She understands my breathing pattern, she knows and understands how I think, and she gets how I love her and the kids. She knows I am not perfect but thinks I am perfect for her, just the way I am. She’s a very quiet and calm lady; I am loud and super fierce, but my noise compliments her silence.
DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?
YEBOAH: My wife loves me and takes very good care of me. She puts smiles on my face, cuddles with me and chooses me every day, even though I am already hers. When we encounter any misunderstanding, she works it out with me amicably.
DBM: Are you a good spouse?
YEBOAH: I am really a good husband. I am a responsible father, I am dependable, I am committed to my marriage and our family; I help whenever I can with the chores at home.
DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?
YEBOAH: I have but she doesn’t know. That was the one secret I mentioned earlier. My wife I think underestimates how shallow I can sometimes be as a man. I cheat once in a while, not every day, because I can get away with it or perhaps, I am willing to actually get away with it because of the kind of wife she is. She trusts me to a fault and I don’t do anything to make her doubt her trust in me. I married a good woman; she’s not troublesome.
DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.
YEBOAH: Babes, you are a gift to me and the kids. And because of how important you are to me, I am motivated to give my best to you. I cherish you as my partner for life. I will do my best not to play games with your heart.
Image Credits: Ketut Subiyanto
