Let’s Talk To Calvary
David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)
Participant 184: My name is Calvary
DBM: Hi Calvary. How would you describe yourself?
Calvary: A once in a lifetime kind of woman
DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?
Calvary: I am 5-ish today. It may change tomorrow
DBM: What do you want to talk about?
Calvary: I came up with a solution to solve my husband’s weak ejaculation problem. His erectile dysfunction is a cause for concern in our marriage. And I wasn’t ready to start looking elsewhere to find good sex, that is why I thought through this idea before executing it.
DBM: What do you mean by weak ejaculation?
Calvary: Ne kɔteɛ nu ejaculation decreased in force and volume
DBM: I see. So, what was your brilliant idea?
Calvary: Viagra solution
DBM: 😊 Good for him
Calvary: He doesn’t know he’s taking it
DBM: How do you mean?
Calvary: I mix in with his soup, drinks, stew, tea, etc. on a daily basis. Well, depending on what he’s asking me to prepare or give to him at home.
DBM: But that is wrong, no?
Calvary: How is it wrong?
DBM: Did the two of you consult with a doctor about what’s best for him?
Calvary: I figured it out myself. His ego wouldn’t allow him to see a doctor.
DBM: How do you know?
Calvary: He’s my husband, I know him.
DBM: Is it working?
Calvary: Not the way I was hoping it would.
DBM: How long have you been doing this to him?
Calvary: Since the beginning of the year
DBM: What you are doing is criminal
Calvary: It’s not
DBM: Are you your husband’s doctor?
Calvary: Lol!
DBM: No, I’m being serious.
Calvary: I know what I’m doing
DBM: Have you considered your husband’s overall health?
Calvary: He’s fine
DBM: Has he any medical conditions he’s being treated for?
Calvary: Not really
DBM: Meaning, you’re not sure?
Calvary: He’s healthy, believe me. Just a little high pressure here and there but that’s all.
DBM: Viagra may or not be safe for men with high blood pressure. It actually interacts negatively with certain medications
Calvary: How do you know? Are you on Viagra?
DBM: No, but I’m just saying! I know it should only be taken once a day
Calvary: I will be careful
DBM: It’s not about being careful. You are drugging your husband
Calvary: I am healing the sick
DBM: What is the appropriate doze given him?
Calvary: I mix 20-mg tablet into whatever liquid I serve him. With the exception of water
DBM: The day he will experience a heart attack or die, remember to inform his family you were mixing Viagra to feed him.
Calvary: I have another pressing issue to discuss
DBM: What?
Calvary: There is this guy that I think I am attracted to. He is not available but I feel like we connect in our own special way.
DBM: He is not available, meaning?
Calvary: He is married
DBM: Are you available?
Calvary: I want to be for him – if he’s willing to avail himself too
DBM: Why?
Calvary: He is something my husband is not
DBM: What?
Calvary: Very considerate and caring, and kind.
DBM: And?
Calvary: Successful
DBM: In other words?
Calvary: Lol! Rich
DBM: Was he in the picture before your husband?
Calvary: Yes, but we hadn’t discovered our attraction for each other
DBM: When did you realize you liked him?
Calvary: When he told me he couldn’t stop thinking about me
DBM: Why is he thinking about you?
Calvary: That’s the same question I’ve been asking myself
DBM: Why are you thinking about him?
Calvary: He’s the kind of man I want for a husband
DBM: But he is married
Calvary: I know
DBM: What kind of man is your husband?
Calvary: He is my family. He is a wonderful man. I love him very much but I may just not be in love with him anymore
DBM: We all had to make the decision to wind up with strangers we ‘fell in love’ with, who later became our family. We are not supposed to stay in love with them all the time. The intense attraction is a temporary phase that is supposed to keep us together for a period, so deeper and meaningful feelings of love can develop and take root in us. You can choose to toy with the idea of fucking it all up.
Calvary: But don’t you also think life is rather too short to be married to the wrong person?
DBM: Are you married to the wrong man?
Calvary: Sometimes, I feel like I am
DBM: Then discuss the direction your marriage is going with your husband, so you can consider ending with him to see where things might go with the other guy.
Calvary: It’s not that simple
DBM: Do you see your husband truly happy with someone else?
Calvary: Yes
DBM: There’s your answer
Calvary: I am not in love with him
DBM: I believe you. Your answer to my question just clarified that
Calvary: Marriage is not easy. Hmmm!
DBM: When a bond you once shared weakens, your marriage automatically becomes vulnerable to outside factors that sometimes, damages it further. To stay married is a choice I make every single day, because I am content with what I have for a partner.
Calvary: I am not content with what I have
DBM: Very well understood. Your destiny is always in your hands, and so influence, direct and control your own narrative of love. Make your love-life what you want it to be, and with whoever you may want it to be with.
Calvary: Thank you!
DBM: Participant 183, Sabrina, left a question for you: ‘Why did your relationship with your ex not work out?’
Calvary: We grew apart
DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant.
Calvary: Are you voting Bawumia or Mahama, and why?
DBM: Thank you!
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