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Hello David,

My wife is dead. We buried her four months ago. I never believed I could say this but I am very disappointed in the bitter memory she’s left on my mind. I fell in love with a woman I now consider my soul mate. My wife was alive when this happened and she found out. We came to an agreement that we both went our separate ways to chase our happiness. Unfortunately, we could not begin with the divorce process when she died. But between me and her, we were over.

I wasn’t in Accra when she died. Our children were with her at the hospital. And I got to know later that she had shared a picture of my woman with our children. Mind you, my kids are 11, 13, and 15. Two girls and a boy. They don’t like my woman. They all give her attitude when I bring her home. I don’t know what my wife told them about her but knowing my wife, she polluted my children. I found the picture of my lady in the drawer of my second daughter. It is the same picture my wife confronted me as proof when she found out about my relationship. I know I will not allow the children I am taking care of to dictate who I fall in love with. They don’t have a say in this. What I am looking for from your platform is suggestions to convince my children their future step mum isn’t as bad as their mother said.

I don’t understand why they don’t want to give her the opportunity to prove herself to them. She’s a wonderful woman, Dave. I have never loved any woman as much as I love her. She makes me a better version of myself, and she will be the perfect mother to fill their mother’s shoes. What should I do? Because ending things with her is out of the question. I will marry her by the end of the year.

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