BECAUSE HE LOVES ME

David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 9: FaithLove_T

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

FAITHLOVE_T: I’m cool, shy and well reserved woman who likes minding her own business. I like to see my loved ones happy always.

DBM: How long have you been married?

FAITHLOVE_T: 13 years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

FAITHLOVE_T: Well, I didn’t have such specifications then, because I married early (19) and actually didn’t even know what marriage was all about but looking at it, he is my Spec 😍.

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

FAITHLOVE_T: Eeeii! This will be another story for another day but one word I can use to describe our meeting is DIVINE

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes!

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

FAITHLOVE_T: Severally, but this one we were both watching a movie together and we were so into the movie, meanwhile, I couldn’t understand some of the words spoken in American slang due to the fast way the actors were speaking, and so I turned to him and asked, “what did he say my love”? And he burst out with laughter and laughed so hard, and will always explain for me to understand.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

FAITHLOVE_T: Four years into our marriage, I became very sick after our first child, and it got so worst that everyone including myself thought my husband would take me back to parents’ house; not because he didn’t love me but he was exhausted emotionally, financially and physically, and yet my situation wasn’t getting better. I would have actually understood him but my beloved husband chose to stand by me through thick and thin, and in good health and bad health, and this made me realize he’s the one for me, my Godsent 🙏

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes!

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

FAITHLOVE_T: Hmmm! This one, my husband always listens to me and sometimes understands me; he sometimes thinks I don’t listen to understand him but I’m trying my best.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

FAITHLOVE_T: Still the King of my heart ❤️

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

FAITHLOVE_T: We are traditionally married though we are Christians (Catholics). The vow’s that means a lot to me is “For better for worse”. I keep telling my husband that even though he didn’t wed me in church, he has demonstrated by all standards – the true meaning of that vow in our marriage, and I adore him for that.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

FAITHLOVE_T: Outings, taking walks holding hands and our bedmatics time 😄😄😄

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes, we are growing stronger by God’s grace 🙏.  I still get butterflies in my stomach anytime I look at him 😍😍

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes, I do but I have learned to guard my heart too because anything can happen. I don’t want to be shocked to the bone at any point.

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

FAITHLOVE_T: We are busy with work but I can say we get time for ourselves most of the time.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes!

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes, with him I feel more secure; and no (just me worrying for no reason when there’s no cause for alarm; it’s just a woman thing). No because we have one child and in a deep conversation with him, he told me he loves to have plenty children, but if it’s God’s Will that He should have only one, he’s okay with God plans. This makes me not secure in case he wants his wishes granted by looking elsewhere.

Note that my husband hasn’t shown any signs of doing the above, rather, he consoles and encourages me to trust in God anytime I break down. In fact, he has a way of always carrying all my worries away with his words of wisdom, love and care towards me .

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

FAITHLOVE_T: For God to see us through in good health, still loving each other, to protect our child, keep and bless us with 1 or 2 🙏 (deep down we’re grateful for the already buddle of joy he blessed us with, 10 years ago), financial breakthrough and above all, Grace to age gracefully together, and seeing our grandkids 🙏

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

FAITHLOVE_T: Spooning, Woman on top and doggy. Eeeii, is this my handwriting 😀😀😀

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

FAITHLOVE_T: 9

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

FAITHLOVE_T: Love is selfless, kindness, making others happy, giving etc.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes very!

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

FAITHLOVE_T: I’m not perfect but I try to be the best spouse, but in my husband’s eyes, I am!

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

FAITHLOVE_T: Never and not even in my dreams till the end.

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

FAITHLOVE_T: My IGB, I really love the way you’re loving me and taking very good care of the family. Never change! We love, cherish and appreciate all your efforts to see us happy and okay. Never give up on your dreams and keep going, because one day, God will smile on you and fulfill your dreams and aspirations 🙏; your suffering won’t be in vain… Amen!

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ❤️

Image Credit: Anna Shvets