Let’s Talk To TP
David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name of your choosing)
Participant 163: Toothpick
DBM: Hello TP. How would you describe yourself?
TP: Always horny
DBM: How happy are you on a scale of 1 to 10?
TP: 4 right now
DBM: What do you want to talk about?
TP: One of my directors at work is my taste. I am invited to his office a lot for work discussions. I have been tempted more than a dozen times to touch his thigh, and then, assuming he doesn’t get offended, move my hand up to feel his hard dick.
DBM: You love Vitamin D that much?
TP: Lol! If the size is satisfying, I become very happy during sex. Good sex enhances my beauty
DBM: Describe satisfying
TP: Very thick and somewhat within 8.5 to 9 inches in length, with girth. Sex becomes intense with the proper vitamins D
DBM: Is this guy you’re telling me about, single?
TP: 50/50
DBM: Meaning?
TP: He is in the process of divorcing his wife
DBM: That is what he’s told you?
TP: Yes
DBM: Are you single?
TP: I am married. Dave, I desire my husband, don’t get me wrong. Our sex life is ‘ok’, and I believe that is what has turned into feeling more desired myself.
DBM: ‘Okay’ meaning what?
TP: In as much as it’s good, it gets boring at times. Sometimes, very stale or monotonous
DBM: Is this the first guy you have felt this way towards, outside of your marriage?
TP: No!
DBM: I see
TP: Some of these dudes out there are foine
DBM: Is your husband foine?
TP: He’s alright. Manageable
DBM: Describe your relationship with your husband to me
TP: Things aren’t perfect, but who’s complaining!
DBM: What do you think is missing, or could be going wrong from your perspective?
TP: About my marriage?
DBM: Yeah!
TP: My marriage is fine. I’m just beginning to find other men attractive
DBM: When did this sudden, random attraction start?
TP: When I found out my husband had been in a few affairs with other women
DBM: How long ago?
TP: Three years into the marriage
DBM: So, it’s your husband’s fault that you’re starting to also cheat?
TP: No
DBM: Have you cheated on your husband yet?
TP: Not yet
DBM: Do you want to?
TP: Yes
DBM: Because he showed you how to?
TP: Because I am realizing I am also a hot cake, and can fool around
DBM: How long have you been married?
TP: I prefer not to say
DBM: Why did you get married?
TP: Honest to God?
DBM: Let’s be real
TP: I married because all my friends were getting married and having children. I needed a man so bad that, when I met my husband, though it was partially clear to me he wasn’t ready to get married, I chose to block out all the little red flags he showed me – so he could choose me.
DBM: Red flags like?
TP: I wasn’t his only woman
DBM: So, you chose to be delusional?
TP: I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt
DBM: Did you trust him?
TP: I made a decision to trust and believe the best in him
DBM: That’s fair.
TP: I thought he could change
DBM: For you?
TP: Yeah!
DBM: Because you are the right woman for him?
TP: I could have
DBM: Nothing will change a man who fools women. No-thing!
TP: Hmmm!
DBM: I know a number of married men who want to leave their marriages but are not willing to end it. And so, they start engaging in a bunch of foolish behaviors that they know would piss their wives off. They’re intentional about these acts because they are trying to get their spouses to rather make that move. This enables them to play the victim card because their wives would be the ones wanting to leave. Is that what you think your husband could be up to?
TP: I don’t think he wants to leave me
DBM: Does he love you?
TP: Yes
DBM: How do you know?
TP: He tells me
DBM: Words mean nothing, really! What does his actions tell you?
TP: That he’s bullshitting me
DBM: The people we settle in marriages with do not necessarily have to love us. It’s not by-force, especially if they’re still unsure of the future of their decision. That doesn’t mean they don’t care about you.
TP: Hmmm! I’m not sure how to carry these wandering feelings
DBM: Are you happy with your partner?
TP: I am happy when he makes me a priority but I am not sure how he feels when he’s home with me
DBM: If a man is happy with you, he will not give much thought to all those other beautiful women on his path. He wouldn’t even flirt with them.
TP: And, if he’s unhappy?
DBM: Just as you’re doing, you suddenly notice all the attractive men you work with, and may even consider pursuing them.
TP: Dave, I have to go now
DBM: Wait! Before you leave, participant 162, Shaan, left a question for you: ‘Has life presented you with a challenge that has left you just hanging on?’
TP: I fell in love with my husband, thinking the passion and excitement could last forever. Now, the intensity of it has faded over time
DBM: Falling out of love should not mean you can’t care about each other
TP: Hmmm!
DBM: It’s your turn to leave a question behind for the next participant
TP: What is your understanding of Hebrews 13:4?
DBM: Thank you!
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