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BECAUSE HE LOVES ME

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David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 9: FaithLove_T

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

FAITHLOVE_T: I’m cool, shy and well reserved woman who likes minding her own business. I like to see my loved ones happy always.

DBM: How long have you been married?

FAITHLOVE_T: 13 years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

FAITHLOVE_T: Well, I didn’t have such specifications then, because I married early (19) and actually didn’t even know what marriage was all about but looking at it, he is my Spec 😍.

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

FAITHLOVE_T: Eeeii! This will be another story for another day but one word I can use to describe our meeting is DIVINE

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes!

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

FAITHLOVE_T: Severally, but this one we were both watching a movie together and we were so into the movie, meanwhile, I couldn’t understand some of the words spoken in American slang due to the fast way the actors were speaking, and so I turned to him and asked, “what did he say my love”? And he burst out with laughter and laughed so hard, and will always explain for me to understand.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

FAITHLOVE_T: Four years into our marriage, I became very sick after our first child, and it got so worst that everyone including myself thought my husband would take me back to parents’ house; not because he didn’t love me but he was exhausted emotionally, financially and physically, and yet my situation wasn’t getting better. I would have actually understood him but my beloved husband chose to stand by me through thick and thin, and in good health and bad health, and this made me realize he’s the one for me, my Godsent 🙏

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes!

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

FAITHLOVE_T: Hmmm! This one, my husband always listens to me and sometimes understands me; he sometimes thinks I don’t listen to understand him but I’m trying my best.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

FAITHLOVE_T: Still the King of my heart ❤️

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

FAITHLOVE_T: We are traditionally married though we are Christians (Catholics). The vow’s that means a lot to me is “For better for worse”. I keep telling my husband that even though he didn’t wed me in church, he has demonstrated by all standards – the true meaning of that vow in our marriage, and I adore him for that.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

FAITHLOVE_T: Outings, taking walks holding hands and our bedmatics time 😄😄😄

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes, we are growing stronger by God’s grace 🙏.  I still get butterflies in my stomach anytime I look at him 😍😍

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes, I do but I have learned to guard my heart too because anything can happen. I don’t want to be shocked to the bone at any point.

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

FAITHLOVE_T: We are busy with work but I can say we get time for ourselves most of the time.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes!

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes, with him I feel more secure; and no (just me worrying for no reason when there’s no cause for alarm; it’s just a woman thing). No because we have one child and in a deep conversation with him, he told me he loves to have plenty children, but if it’s God’s Will that He should have only one, he’s okay with God plans. This makes me not secure in case he wants his wishes granted by looking elsewhere.

Note that my husband hasn’t shown any signs of doing the above, rather, he consoles and encourages me to trust in God anytime I break down. In fact, he has a way of always carrying all my worries away with his words of wisdom, love and care towards me .

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

FAITHLOVE_T: For God to see us through in good health, still loving each other, to protect our child, keep and bless us with 1 or 2 🙏 (deep down we’re grateful for the already buddle of joy he blessed us with, 10 years ago), financial breakthrough and above all, Grace to age gracefully together, and seeing our grandkids 🙏

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

FAITHLOVE_T: Spooning, Woman on top and doggy. Eeeii, is this my handwriting 😀😀😀

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

FAITHLOVE_T: 9

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

FAITHLOVE_T: Love is selfless, kindness, making others happy, giving etc.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

FAITHLOVE_T: Yes very!

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

FAITHLOVE_T: I’m not perfect but I try to be the best spouse, but in my husband’s eyes, I am!

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

FAITHLOVE_T: Never and not even in my dreams till the end.

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

FAITHLOVE_T: My IGB, I really love the way you’re loving me and taking very good care of the family. Never change! We love, cherish and appreciate all your efforts to see us happy and okay. Never give up on your dreams and keep going, because one day, God will smile on you and fulfill your dreams and aspirations 🙏; your suffering won’t be in vain… Amen!

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH ❤️

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HIS LIGHT STILL SHINES

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David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 8:  Akos.

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

AKOS: I am a self-motivated person, a Christian and a lover of the word of God. I am the outgoing type; I love to have fun in my own world. I am a home maker and I have the heart of a man.

DBM: How long have you been married?

AKOS: 8+ years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

AKOS: Frankly, I didn’t have anything like the perfect picture in mind. One thing I think I always wanted in a man was someone who was intelligent and had a vision, and I saw that in my hubby. I just loved my husband for who he was. He was averagely tall with a thick masculine body, dark in complexion and was in academia, which I truly loved.

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

AKOS: He was my superior at work.

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

AKOS: Partially yes. Soccer was his life, so in the initial stages of our marriage, it was like he was married to soccer, and not to me.

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

AKOS: When we had a family dance with the kids, and when I had a surprise birthday party for him.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

AKOS: After my first child.

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

AKOS: Yes, he had always been. My husband was always on point with his dressing, work, food, just name it. He was just the perfect gentleman in my own world.

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

AKOS: I completely listened, as more times – I needed insight from him. He was indeed my world.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

AKOS: He was trying everything possible to give me a perfect world. Our major problem had always been his addiction to soccer.

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

AKOS: I’ll love and cherish you in the good and bad. I’ll love you the best way I can ever, and will be the best parent to our children yet to be born.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

AKOS: Trying to help the needy the best way we could, even when the going became tough. He always loved to give. The last charity he made was in December.

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

AKOS: I kept falling in love and talking about his love, and I still talk about it.

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

AKOS: I didn’t trust my husband fully because he was the ‘ladies’ man’. He had women proposing to him almost all the time. He just had that vibe.

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

AKOS: We barely had time for each other because of work but when we had the least opportunity, we always made the best of it.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

AKOS: I feel more connected, much more than ever.

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

AKOS: No! I had felt threatened on several occasions, though my hubby promised me a beautiful marriage.

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

AKOS: I’ve always anticipated our marriage standing on a solid Christian faith, full of love and joy.

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

AKOS: Trying new things to spice our wonderful sex life, but along the line it flopped due to health issues from my spouse.

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

AKOS: It was 6 out of 10.

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

AKOS: Patience, understanding and being there to give a shoulder when necessary. Being each other’s confidant and backbone.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

AKOS: I used to feel loved.

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

AKOS: There’s no perfect marriage but I tried to be a great wife. Honestly, I hardly let go of what hurt me. And I loved to pay back sometimes. I easily got provoked and angry, and my husband was always there to comfort and share my pain, even if I was angry at him.

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

AKOS: Never!

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

AKOS: The husband of my youth, my all-time lover boy, you know how we rocked it and you know the special place you have in my heart. The space can never and will never be occupied. I think of you day and night and I wish I could turn back the hands of time and have a more solid lovely perfect marriage with you. It’s been months without you and it feels like forever. When I close my eyes to pray, I still tell God to incubate your soul peacefully for us until we meet in eternity someday.

My anointed general may you keep resting peacefully. We dearly love and miss you today and forever. From us on earth to you in heaven.

ADAMS’ APPLE

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David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 7:  Adams is my name.

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

ADAMS: I am 68 years old, and a father to four grown children. I am a grandfather, a husband and a friend. I am retired and enjoying the remaining years of my life with my wife.

DBM: How long have you been married?

ADAMS: 35 years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

ADAMS: My wife fits into my exact specifications. She actually is in a league of her own. I settled for a woman I would never otherwise would have gone for. Don’t get me wrong, my wife is very beautiful to me; she is beautiful to me because I give her the chance to become beautiful in my eyes. And in all the 35 years of loving her, I have given myself the opportunity to be equally good in her eyes, and most importantly, cherished for who I really am, by the one woman whose opinion I value the most.

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

ADAMS: She found me at a point in my life when I was thinking I wasn’t good enough for any woman; every lady I liked didn’t like me back. I felt useless. She was at the same bus stop where an ex-girlfriend of mine had broken up with me in public. I doubted my capabilities as a man, but this stranger, now wife, encouraged me with her presence and friendship to build me back up to move forward. It was humiliating to say the least, but she stood by me at the bus stop, and has been standing by me through all of my ups and downs.

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

ADAMS: Our friendship will never end, and that makes me the happiest man in the world. Yes!

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

ADAMS: That would be over 28 years ago. We both had a busy schedule and had to rely on one of her best friends to pick our children from school. We gave her our house keys to cater for the kids in our absence. I was the first to arrive home after 10 pm. We were expecting my wife to arrive at dawn. The kids were asleep when I got home. While taking my bath, I heard the bathroom door open. My wife’s friend was naked. Because I had soap lather in my eyes, I couldn’t see her approach me. It was after she held my penis and kissed me that I realized that wasn’t my wife. I sacked her from my house and told my wife the moment she got home. I don’t know whether she believed me or not but she laughed so hard, she encountered a stomach pain in the process. She did not confront her friend about my accusation. They’re still close friends. She’s still our family friend.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

ADAMS: The day I realized my wife wasn’t afraid of being alone, with or without me in her life. Yes, she’s in want of the man that I am, but she doesn’t really need me in any way to feel fulfilled.

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

ADAMS: My wife is as attractive and perfect as I make her to be. She’s ambitious and very reliable. Dave, authenticity is sexier to me in any body type or shape, any day.

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

ADAMS: I have never taken the importance of communication with my wife lightly. She discusses almost everything that is important to her with me, and I make sure to listen to whatever she has to say, and truly make the effort to comprehend exactly where she may be coming from. In a deeper conversation with my wife, I know when to talk or offer an opinion, and when not to.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

ADAMS: She’s my ideal wife, and I will choose her over and over again, any day. In fact, I still chase after her till date. She respects herself, and respects me too.

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

ADAMS: In the name of The Almighty God, I take you, Sophia, to be my wife; to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish – until we are parted by death.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

ADAMS: Raising our children together and enriching them to a higher level of thinking, feeling, loving and behaving, has been the most fun we have both had in our marriage.

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

ADAMS: It’s growing stronger every day. I understand my wife in a deeper level.

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

ADAMS: Completely! She owns my heart, and I feel comfortable being vulnerable with her.

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

ADAMS: David, I love my wife so much to the extent that, I love being around her. For me, as long as I get to spend time with her, I don’t really care whatever we’d be doing together – if I’d be doing it with her, that would be more than enough for me. She’s the best company I have ever kept and had all my life.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

ADAMS: Yes, I feel connected emotionally to my Sophie. She’s exactly where I need her to be emotionally with me. We support each other the best way possible.

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

ADAMS: Very! We are constantly paying attention to our inner and outer growths at every phase of our lives.

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

ADAMS: Till death do us part I believe.

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

ADAMS: My ideal sex life is climaxing with my wife.

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

ADAMS: 9/10. She pleases me, and we are content with what we share intimately.

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

ADAMS: My understanding of love is being on the same page on the importance of respecting each other, being true to our words, creating time to prioritize our feelings for one another, resolving conflict when it arises and forgiving each other; being strong for the other when weak, and helping one another to carry on.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

ADAMS: I love how my wife loves me. She’s my favorite lady.

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

ADAMS: I am a good husband, but I am married to a wonderful woman.

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

ADAMS: Finding myself in the arms of another woman, to me, is an expression, not my reality. I don’t want to hurt Sophia, because I love her. I don’t want to tear my family apart and sacrifice my honor; that is why I have never cheated on my wife.

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

ADAMS: Sophia, I am one of the luckiest men alive. We promised each other for better and for worse, and so far, I am also honoring my part of the vows. You know how much I love you; you know how much I am in love with you. You know how much I appreciate you. I wasn’t searching for a perfect woman; I wasn’t looking for a flawless marriage. All I prayed for was for God to bless me with a decent marriage, genuine commitment and a lasting friendship between us. Thank you very much for going easy on me!

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CROSS-FIRE

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David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 6:  Cross will do.

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

CROSS: I’m just me; easy going, opinionated and massive fun to be with.

DBM: How long have you been married?

CROSS: Nine years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

CROSS: I never had a spec; however, I never wanted a spiritual leader as a spouse. I’m not good with being a role model.

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

CROSS: At his workplace after I completed Senior High School.

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

CROSS: No! My husband is a bit judgmental, and so I am very careful of the things I share with him.

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

CROSS: I’m naturally a happy soul. So anytime you are around me, a smile will always be on your face.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

CROSS: I was double dating actually; it was him and another guy. Then I got pregnant and was uncertain of who was responsible. I told the other guy and he accepted but I couldn’t handle it, and so I requested for a termination. After the termination of the pregnancy, I bled for two weeks straight and was getting weaker by the day. I avoided my husband, who was then just the other guy throughout the abortion. He came to my workplace uninvited one afternoon. The moment he set his eyes on me, he knew something was wrong and I was dying slowly so I had to open up to him. He acted cool, went out and brought me medications to stop the bleeding, and took care of me through it all. The other guy tried contacting me and my husband (then boyfriend) gave him a piece of his mind. That was when he said a lot of shitty things about me to him, but all my husband told him was that, “she’s now with me, so stay away from her”. That was when I knew that, I had found a diamond in a form of a human.

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

CROSS: Very much. My husband is seriously attractive.

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

CROSS: Yes! We always discuss our daily activities before going to bed. I am an ardent listener as well. Because of him, I read about sports so I can have a meaningful conversation with him.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

CROSS: Very well! He is a great husband and a wonderful father.

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

CROSS: Till death do us part.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

CROSS: On weekends and holidays when we are home alone without the kids. Having wild sex in the room and gisting about others, etc.

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

CROSS: Mine fluctuates.

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

CROSS: Not really!

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

CROSS: Whenever we have a free time, we spend it together.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

CROSS: Not really!

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

CROSS: No! He tried adding up a wife some time ago, and it has changed my perception about the whole marriage.

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

CROSS: Outside the country with our children.

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

CROSS: We’re always fuel and fire.

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

CROSS: 12/10 😂😂

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

CROSS: Being there for each other and sharing the good, bad and ugly times together. And being available for/to our children.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

CROSS: Of course yes, although I sometimes feel caged.

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

CROSS: I am trying to be better than before.

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

CROSS: Emotionally yes, but sexually/physically, no!

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

CROSS: I do have so much love and admiration for you honey. All I want is for you to get out of your comfort zone and explore more business-wise. I love how you love me and our children; please know we will enjoy this union if only you stay true to me. Yes, I’m not ready to share my husband with anyone!

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GOING WITH THE GROOVE, VICTORY STYLE

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David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 5:  Victory is fine.

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

VICTORY: I am a committed Christian, beautiful and a happy-going person who believes in hard work, and is currently working two jobs.

DBM: How long have you been married?

VICTORY: I have been married for 15 years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

VICTORY: A man who would always be there for his family; had to be tall, slim and an extrovert. My husband does not fit into all of my specifications. Let’s say, 50%.

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

VICTORY: Dave, it will surprise you how we both ended up together; we met through my ex.

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

VICTORY: No please, he is not my best friend.

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

VICTORY: When I told him I met him holding a dairy and a pen which he carried everywhere until God blessed him.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

VICTORY: I was certain he was the one based on the way he treated my mum and sisters. He stood by me through my hard times.

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

VICTORY: Dave, after 15 years of marriage, I still find my husband very attractive.

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

VICTORY: He does not listen pa pa bia. Sometimes, I have to repeat myself before I get a response.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

VICTORY: To him, he’s the best husband ever, but to me, his focus is on the kids.

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

VICTORY: In sickness and in health, till death do us part.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

VICTORY: We had our share of fun when we didn’t have kids.

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

VICTORY: Dave, saa telenovela odo no doesn’t work for me. Me nni biom but we are cool laidat!

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

VICTORY: I still trust him, but nothing will surprise me because I have my shock absorbers in place 😂.

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

VICTORY: I have all the time for him, but unfortunately, I got an introvert who enjoys his own company for a husband (reason why I didn’t want one in the first place) 😂😂.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

VICTORY: My husband is a typical African man; my emotional needs na my own o. Take money and sort yourself out specs

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

VICTORY: I am very secure. What can come can come! 😅

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

VICTORY: Till death walahi 🙏😂. We will both be preparing for our retirements with either a pension baby or grandchild.

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

VICTORY: Please, table top or wheelbarrow. 😂😂

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

VICTORY: Our current sex life is 9.

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

VICTORY: I doubt I have any. Love ankasa me ni bi.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

VICTORY: Yes please. I have one weakness that it would only take love to tolerate. So, for him to put up with it/me for all these 15 years, wa y3 bi; he’s really done well!

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

VICTORY: Yes, I am a good spouse, by my husband’s standard. He tells me all the time.

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

VICTORY: S3 cheating ye football a, anka me y3 Merci (no sir)

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

VICTORY: Nana K, I am proud of you; I will choose you again if there’s a next life. You have been a good provider for me and the children, nanso, ye romantic kakraa ai? You take life too seriously. 😘

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YEBOAH’S TAKE

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David Bondze-Mbir (DBM): Thank you for participating. What name would you want to go by? (It can be your real first name or any other name you fancy)

Participant 2: I am Yeboah.

DBM: Tell me anything about yourself

YEBOAH: Yeboah is a caring and loving gentleman who has got his shit together. I am worthy of my wife’s attention, time, love and respect. I do not talk down on people others feel are lesser to me; I respect myself and others.

DBM: How long have you been married?

YEBOAH: I have been married for 10 years.

DBM: What was your perfect ‘type’ of a man or woman? Did your husband or wife fit into your exact specifications?

YEBOAH: I looked out for a responsible lady; she had to have a job. She had to be emotionally intelligent; a woman who could control her emotional instincts and could demonstrate true maturity when confronted with life’s issues. My wife is a well-grounded individual with a sense of balance when it comes to her finances. Physically, I wanted bortoss kakra on her backside and great east-west standing boobs to cure my asthma. I am cured after a decade with her!

DBM: So, how did you two meet?

YEBOAH: At a friend’s wedding reception. She was physically ready to be talked to, so I talked to her.

DBM: Do you consider your significant other as your best friend?

YEBOAH: My wife is my best friend. Though we’ve become so used to each other, our friendship hasn’t dwindled. I feel appreciated, liked and loved by her always.

DBM: When did you make him or her laugh the most? What happened?

YEBOAH: At that same wedding reception. I told her she looked lovelier than the bride (which she did). I drew her attention to the fact that the bridegroom was also checking her out. He was, and we both laughed.

DBM: At what point were you certain he or she was the one for you?

YEBOAH: When I realized she also loved being near me. She would take my hand and make me feel like I am special to her.

DBM: Do you still find your husband or wife physically attractive?

YEBOAH: My wife is HOT, very attractive.

DBM: In a deeper conversation with your spouse, do you listen just to completely understand or you listen simply to formulate your response?

YEBOAH: I listen. I am not sure whether it’s to understand her or formulate a response she would like but I let her feel heard.

DBM: How is your significant other faring in the position as a husband or wife?

YEBOAH: Awesome! Beautiful woman inside-out, excellent wife and an amazing mother to the kids.

DBM: Which of your wedding vows means the world to you?

YEBOAH: I used to take my vows seriously because it meant something to me. Forsaking all others was one of my favorite. I was very much in love when I said it to her, but when I encountered Adwoa, Helena, Yaa, Serwah and Sena, I realized I wasn’t going to be able to stick with a lifetime vow.

DBM: What is the most fun you both have had in the relationship?

YEBOAH: Sex hour is our most fun. We laugh, we experiment, we make the most out of positions; we mess ourselves up and then go bath.

DBM: Is the love for your husband or wife growing any stronger by the day?

YEBOAH: Every day! My wife doesn’t sit idle just to watch me provide for her and the kids. She hustles and will always have my back. She defends my honor over all others.

DBM: Do you trust your husband or wife?

YEBOAH: 100%. I am fulfilled in my marriage because my wife does what she says. On my part, with the exception of one secret I cannot share with her because it can break her heart, I share everything else with her without the fear of being judged. She is a genuine woman and would not hurt me intentionally.

DBM: How much time do you spend on your husband or wife?

YEBOAH: On week days, I am a very busy person, but when I get any free time, I make it a point to spend it with my wife. We hang out, plan date nights, chill, joke, fuck, keep each other company, catch up, etc.

DBM: Emotionally, do you feel connected than before?

YEBOAH: I am emotionally taken care of, yes! She’s there for me when I need her to be in it with me.

DBM: Do you feel secure in the marriage?

YEBOAH: Yes! I am able to share who I am and be vulnerable around her.

DBM: Where do you see you and your spouse in the next 10 years?

YEBOAH: Growing stronger than ever. In our marriage, I am a student of my wife. I’ve taken the time to learn more about her needs and all that there is to her that makes her different from me. Dave, I know what it feels like when my wife understands me; that is why I aim every day to understand her too.

DBM: What is your ideal sex life?

YEBOAH: Making my wife orgasm without touching her. Her legs shake madly, and goes weak at the knee; she kneels to worship me waist-down with a glorious blowjob. Dave, you don’t want to know details. It’s a calling only a few men can fulfill. I am one of the chosen.

DBM: Rate your current sex life (out of 10)

YEBOAH: 7/10. It can be better.

DBM: What is your understanding of love?

YEBOAH: My wife is my perfect understanding of love: she has taken her time to really get to know me. She understands my breathing pattern, she knows and understands how I think, and she gets how I love her and the kids. She knows I am not perfect but thinks I am perfect for her, just the way I am. She’s a very quiet and calm lady; I am loud and super fierce, but my noise compliments her silence.

DBM: Are you feeling loved in your marriage?

YEBOAH: My wife loves me and takes very good care of me. She puts smiles on my face, cuddles with me and chooses me every day, even though I am already hers. When we encounter any misunderstanding, she works it out with me amicably.

DBM: Are you a good spouse?

YEBOAH: I am really a good husband. I am a responsible father, I am dependable, I am committed to my marriage and our family; I help whenever I can with the chores at home.

DBM: Have you cheated on your husband or wife with another man or woman?

YEBOAH: I have but she doesn’t know. That was the one secret I mentioned earlier. My wife I think underestimates how shallow I can sometimes be as a man. I cheat once in a while, not every day, because I can get away with it or perhaps, I am willing to actually get away with it because of the kind of wife she is. She trusts me to a fault and I don’t do anything to make her doubt her trust in me. I married a good woman; she’s not troublesome.

DBM: Say something to your spouse from your heart.

YEBOAH: Babes, you are a gift to me and the kids. And because of how important you are to me, I am motivated to give my best to you. I cherish you as my partner for life. I will do my best not to play games with your heart.

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SPARK SPARKED

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

Hello,

I am happily married. I am only beginning to realize that I can’t be faithful to him as I thought I would be. I never told my husband about my past. I told him what I knew could influence his decision to marry me. He thinks I am a good girl. Dave, I can be a good wife and everything else good girls are, but my past is loaded. I have 54 men under my belt. My husband is number 54. Twenty seven out of the number f***ked me well. I keep records when it comes to good sex. My husband is not part of the 27. We married because the first day I met him I knew he was the right one to make family. I forgot to factor in the importance of good sex. My concentration was on his fine looks, and his good character; he wasn’t doing bad for himself in his career. My husband is a likable guy. I was ok tolerating our sex life.

When children came in they took my mind off what it meant to have an orgasm. Dave, I can count the number of times I have experienced orgasm with my husband. I reached that height because I was thinking of some of the 27 characters. You get what I am trying to say right? It was still not a problem till I met one of the 27 that I really, really liked. Our relationship didn’t work because he told me he was going to engage his then wife. He is divorced. We met and the spark sparked. It was natural. No one had to say anything to start anything. It was there between us.

I told him I am married, but Dave, my heart was telling him I missed him. He asked for my number. He called my phone in my presence to say hello. That was that! I saved his digits. It’s been three days and he hasn’t called or said anything. I want to call and say hello too but I am scared of what else could follow after the hello. Of all the men I slept with, I think he’s the one I fell in love with. When we broke off, his last words to me were, I am in love with you. I ended our affair because he told me he was getting engaged. I have never had sleepless nights thinking about my husband like I am thinking of this ex. I’ve been a little distracted in thought because I don’t know what to do with him. I keep staring at his name on my phone and I can’t help but smile.

Do I want to go on a date with him? Yes. Do I want to kiss him? Yes. Do I want to touch his bare chest? Yes. Do I want to give him a BJ? Yes. Do I want him to go deeper and harder? Yes. The feeling is so bad, I want to have his child. I have been asking myself if it’s all lust but it’s deeper than lust. His last words to me before we broke off has come alive to me all over again. I don’t know what to do. I know you will tell me to think about my husband. The problem is, I can’t find my husband in my mind and heart since I met my ex.

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OVERWHELMED WITH LOVE

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

Hello David, I hope you see and post my message before the 21st November. My wife has surprised me. I don’t know what to say. I can’t thank her enough. Cecilia is a silent follower of your Facebook, and I want to show my appreciation to her. She built a 3-bedroom house at Cantonments for me to rent it out or sell. She says it’s her own appreciation gesture to me for loving her well. These past nine years have been the most amazing experience because I am really in love with this person I call my wife, every day. I remember feeling the happiest I’d ever felt with Cecilia when she showed up the day she did for us to exchange numbers.

My wife was married when we first met. She had been married for three years, and her husband wasn’t satisfied with just her. Her husband suggested they introduce a third party in their relationship. He had the perfect girl but needed my wife’s agreement. According to Cecilia, she couldn’t navigate bringing someone else into their marriage. She wasn’t in agreement. Also, she didn’t want to be the reason why her ex-husband couldn’t be happy, and so she let him have his way. They were honest about what they were feeling, and talked about it. He wasn’t happy in their marriage; she loved him, but was not happy with his decision to have another woman. I met with her ex-husband when she found me. He was okay with his wife finding what made her happy. Her ex is the type that has no expectation of how he is meant to behave and feel. He was willing to allow himself and the women he was intimate with to feel different emotions, whether it’s love, jealousy, resentment, happiness, and connectedness.

On the evening of Saturday, December 29, 2012, my wife’s marriage ended before she even had a chance to have her last orgasm in the marriage. They were having sex in the kitchen, next to their sink which was stacked with dinner dishes. According to Cecilia, her ex looked down from across her shoulder and said, I want a divorce, right after he had cum. I can gaudily recall the defeat in her face and how she could barely look me in the eye when she was narrating her experience.

I met my wife on the 30th of December, 2012. She had closed from church and was shopping at the mall. I was entering my car when she tapped me on the shoulder. She told me she had seen me inside the mall and thought I was very attractive. She says she followed me. She asked if I were single and had any interest in another lady. When I answered no to both questions, she asked if I found her attractive. I did! She asked about my age. She told me she was about to divorce and needed someone to talk to. Mr. David Bondze-Mbir, I would have still talked to her if she had not mentioned getting divorced. The fact that she approached me, asking the right questions, made me interested.

I asked her for her phone number. The rest is history. Cecilia, I don’t know what I have done to deserve this, but I deserve you. I remember how much fun it was to laugh with you like crazy, back on that Sunday, 30th, 2021, when everything was fresh and new and exciting. I couldn’t have known what had happened to you on the 29th. Your bold approach at the mall that day informed me that I can enjoy marriage with passion and verve with you by my side. Mr. Dave, I have so much influence over the way I feel for my wife. That’s why I wake up every morning with the choice to love Cecilia like crazy, front and center. Babe, if you’re reading this message, imagine me again getting on one knee, and telling you all over again how I’d love to spend the rest of my life as your husband. You keep asking why I have a picture of you in my wallet. Cecilia, I LOVE YOU. That’s why.

Thank you for choosing me.
Thank you for being such a great friend.
Thank you for this awesome banku and okro stew you prepared for me to take to work today.
Thank you for being so patient, gentle, kind, smart, opinionated, and beautiful.
Thank you for saying yes when I proposed marriage to you.
Thank you for being my wife.
Thank you for being the right reason why I remain faithful to only you.
Thank you for everything, especially this 3-bedroom house. I am going to rent it out. I will save every Cedi from this property to build you something amazing as you. Children or no children, you are the family I always wanted to have.

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WITHIN MY MEANS

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

This issue of the gentleman who doesn’t know whether to move on with the girlfriend or not due to his financial situation reminds me of my own story. I dated this beautiful lady from October 2011 to December 2018, even though for most part she was a student in the university. During the relationship, everything was hand to mouth; any money I earned, we spent it all. Nothing to save. I don’t even remember a time I had about GHs 1000 on me. But we were happy together even though I could meet all her demands and desires.

Somewhere in 2017, we started talking about marriage and unfortunately, she started planning for a plush event. I requested she brings her expectations down but she really wanted the nice wedding which I knew I couldn’t afford. Anytime she attended someone’s mega wedding, she would come and talk about it gleefully for me to know she wants something similar. I thought she was alone on that thought until I met her family; they even blew my mind with their criticism of someone else’s wedding we had attended together. We began counseling and I really started feeling the ‘heat’ when we started buying items for the wedding. I just couldn’t afford. I had a deep introspection and decided to quit the relationship.

It wasn’t easy at all because we had gone far with the counseling and even bought some items and taken measurements for our rings. But I had to make that decision because I knew I couldn’t afford her expectations; I would be unfair to her. When I told her about my decision, it wasn’t easy at all for the both of us. But I had gotten to the point I had to be firm with my decision.

After a year of breaking up, I met a wife who turned everything around for me. Some people accuse me of leaving a seven-year relationship and marrying someone I met within a year. But my wife helped me within the short period to stand on my feet. Sometimes, if you love someone, you have to let the person go especially when you cannot meet the person’s expectations.

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RANDY COLEMAN’S OPINION

Written by David B on . Posted in Blog.

My wife and I could have pulled off a lavish wedding if we wanted to. In fact, we are not doing badly financially. But God blessed me with the kind of woman who is much more interested in a better life and future for us and our children, than just a one-day show-off (wedding). She reasoned with me and we had a simple but beautiful engagement; went to court to sign, and we were married. We are happily married with a lovely baby boy, and no financial burden hanging over our heads.

This is a woman who holds two degrees in nursing with other specialties, and has practiced for over a decade as a Senior Nurse. When we started dating, she was already doing her Masters at GIMPA, drove her own car and lived independently. Talk of beauty, she’s got it; the type that other women see and go like… waow! You are beautiful! Yet, she’s very simple, kind-hearted, considerate, and so down to earth. This is the woman I call my wife; that special, priceless gem of a woman to be adored.

The thing is, a big wedding is definitely okay if you want it, and can afford it. But don’t throw away your happiness in pursuit of a one-day ceremony. It just doesn’t make sense. Most of us guys honestly do appreciate simple women who prioritize the future over and above today. That’s my truth!

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